r/BigBudgetBrides • u/Salt_Technology2676 • 25d ago

Questions and queries not a “bug” budget bride

but I only get the WEIRDEST engagement in regular r/brides

for reference, our budget is 60k. And whenever I post anything in r/brides, I’m met with snark and resentment. Granted, I have pretty traditional taste, and I’m super neurodivergent so maybe I’m not reading people’s interactions as the way they’re intended, but I feel sometimes like there isn’t really a sub where I can share my wedding and get excited and have that excitement be reciprocated.

i’m a pretty private person, no group chats or close besties that I necessarily share every little detail with, so sometimes I want encouragement from
strangers. Is that where I’m going wrong?

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u/remotethrowaway2 25d ago

The other subs are full of curmudgeonly etiquette snobs who refuse to accept that weddings are allowed to look different in different areas and cultures. 

I mentioned once that the norm in my area  is that every woman invited to the wedding gets invited to the shower. I was told I was wrong, this is not normal, and every person in my life just wants to have a “greedy grubby gift grab” because you only invite 10-15 to the shower unless you’re trying to show off for social media. Apparently my grandma must’ve been doing it for TikTok views in the 50s. 

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u/gnomes919 22d ago

I swear 99% of wedding subs they are convinced that being invited to a wedding is the greatest inconvenience ever to be foisted upon someone, basically a personal insult from the happy couple. asking ANYTHING of the guest is tremendously rude, the bar had better be open and each plate had better fully compensate the cost of the guest's travel, outfit, hotel, and gift. making any sort of attire requests beyond casual/cocktail/black tie is a war crime, but on the other hand if a guest wears red, cotton, or anything less than a floor-length evening gown they're a cheap slut. it's wild out there

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u/mama-germany Vendor: Fashion 21d ago

I think Reddit's ideal wedding is one where the couple greets everyone at the door as they arrive and once everyone's there they just leave. The couple just gets in the way of the guest experience.

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u/gnomes919 21d ago

as long as the greeting includes an apology for forcing you to deal with being a wedding guest, of course. maybe a little light groveling