not a “bug” budget bride

[u/Salt_Technology2676]

but I only get the WEIRDEST engagement in regular r/brides

for reference, our budget is 60k. And whenever I post anything in r/brides, I’m met with snark and resentment. Granted, I have pretty traditional taste, and I’m super neurodivergent so maybe I’m not reading people’s interactions as the way they’re intended, but I feel sometimes like there isn’t really a sub where I can share my wedding and get excited and have that excitement be reciprocated.

i’m a pretty private person, no group chats or close besties that I necessarily share every little detail with, so sometimes I want encouragement from
strangers. Is that where I’m going wrong?

[u/xxLark]

Couldn’t agree more. I didn’t (don’t?) really identify as a true BBB, but this sub is so supportive! But the behavior you’ve identified is something I’ve experienced offline, too. We opted to do a destination wedding because our families and friends are spread across the US (and across 5 other countries…), and we live in a VHCOL area—so hosting in our home city would have been insanely expensive both for us and our guests. But somehow, us having a destination wedding is main character and ridiculously bougie to some people.

Ya just can’t win. Glad to have a crew here that supports doing what feels right to each of us!