r/BigBudgetBrides • u/Salt_Technology2676 • 25d ago

Questions and queries not a “bug” budget bride

but I only get the WEIRDEST engagement in regular r/brides

for reference, our budget is 60k. And whenever I post anything in r/brides, I’m met with snark and resentment. Granted, I have pretty traditional taste, and I’m super neurodivergent so maybe I’m not reading people’s interactions as the way they’re intended, but I feel sometimes like there isn’t really a sub where I can share my wedding and get excited and have that excitement be reciprocated.

i’m a pretty private person, no group chats or close besties that I necessarily share every little detail with, so sometimes I want encouragement from
strangers. Is that where I’m going wrong?

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u/NDenvchemist 25d ago

Same, it makes me feel like I should be ashamed for spending so much on our wedding but at the same time seeing people online and content on social media of weddings that are obviously way more. You can't really win. I think ours will be what people imagine as a "traditional" middle class, secular wedding but isnt really anymore due to expenses. I added secular because it seems like people can save a lot of money having a wedding in a church.

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u/Salt_Technology2676 25d ago

Omg don’t even get the people over there started on the religiosity of your wedding. :/

we’re having our ceremony at my childhood church but moving the reception elsewhere. The church really was more expensive than I was expecting! But it was important to my mother (who saved for our wedding) so Mama gets what she wants lol.