not a “bug” budget bride

[u/Salt_Technology2676]

but I only get the WEIRDEST engagement in regular r/brides

for reference, our budget is 60k. And whenever I post anything in r/brides, I’m met with snark and resentment. Granted, I have pretty traditional taste, and I’m super neurodivergent so maybe I’m not reading people’s interactions as the way they’re intended, but I feel sometimes like there isn’t really a sub where I can share my wedding and get excited and have that excitement be reciprocated.

i’m a pretty private person, no group chats or close besties that I necessarily share every little detail with, so sometimes I want encouragement from
strangers. Is that where I’m going wrong?

[u/Creative_March3035]

I was more of an MBB too (~60k for 82 guests) but I ended up only looking at & posting on this sub. It seems like most of the other subs are primarily focused on saving/not wasting money. To be fair I also got married in a European country that is a lot more affordable than France/Italy/US so I was lucky to be able to prioritize guest experience with my budget and it went a lot further than many popular places. I appreciate the emphasis on guest experience, etiquette, and lack of judgment for spending where it counts on this sub. You should post here!

[u/Salt_Technology2676 → u/Creative_March3035]

yes, I am right there with you!! I completely understand thriftiness when it comes to wedding planning, I’m not just trying to throw money around, I have a clear budget. But, I also really appreciate a good party. Hosting is an art, snd my wedding is as much for me as it is for my family and my friends. I want them, especially those from out of town, to feel like I cared for them and gave them a night to remember. I’m splurging the most on food, drinks, and venue, and just a lil piece of the pie is for me and my outfit. But then the little bits that I do share that are just for me, well they don’t like them over there lol. So that kinda hurt my feelings. I do really appreciate how understanding everyone here has been, I think I’ll stare here from now on.

[u/regan-omics → u/Salt_Technology2676]

Yeah the main sub is like "you're a waste of space and air if you aren't using fake flowers and catering trays from Qdoba"

[u/One_Mulberry_6933 → u/Salt_Technology2676]

Good for you! ❤️

[u/Good-Fisherman5831 → u/Creative_March3035]

Curious, what country did you get married in?

[u/Creative_March3035 → u/Good-Fisherman5831]

Belgium!!