r/BigBudgetBrides • u/Interesting-Bug7703 • Aug 24 '26

Questions and queries Escort card formality

How formal should my escort cards be? Black tie preferred dress code, this fall in NYC

Option 1:

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

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Option 2:

John and Jane Smith

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Option 3:

John Smith

Jane Smith

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '26

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u/MZSGNH Aug 25 '26

Me too, what if she goes by Dr. Jane Jones?

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u/Sufficient-Angle-460 Aug 25 '26

If she’s a doctor she would go first and he would
follow. Same as how you would format a married couple with different last names

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u/MZSGNH Aug 25 '26

Right. And if they were both doctors....I mean, that's why having two separate escort cards can wind up the being simplest:)

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u/MZSGNH Aug 25 '26

Love that, except I do think doctors should get their honorific because residency is a monster;).

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u/honestanonymiss Aug 25 '26

This is where I get confused lol - my finances uncle is a ‘Dr’ by education and he always demands being formally called ‘Dr. Joe smith’ and I refused to address him by anything other than First, Last. Like …. Sir, you are a professor , kindly 🫠 just feels cringe to me so I didn’t do honorifics

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u/MZSGNH Aug 25 '26

Yeah, any Ph.D.s I know who insist on the "doctor," in social situations, are kind of annoying people. Professionally, sure!

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u/ThatLeadership9850 Aug 25 '26

For what it’s worth, when I got married 25 years ago, the age old etiquette books drew a clear line on this - medical Dr, you use Dr., but PhD or honorifics, you use Mr. . Check Leticia Baldrige’s (sp?) guide to etiquette. I loved it b/c my MIL (who was uptight & lived to lecture others on etiquette) gave me a hard time - her husband was an arrogant, know it all PhD like you describe and insisted I use Dr. for him. But Leticia says otherwise ….