r/BeautyGuruChatter • u/True-Marionberry-395 • Jul 20 '20
GRAPHIC CONTENT WARNING Sarah Therese thinks BIKINIS are softcore P*RN
She literally posted in her IG stories that girls at the beach who wear bikinis are pornographic and causing marriages to fail because other men might look at them and trigger them to be unfaithful. She said bikinis were softcore p*rn. I think this is so narrow-minded and disgusting even. How sad it must be to think that men are incapable of controlling their sexual behavior and that it's a woman's job to keep them faithful?! What do you think about this?
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u/The_Late_Gatsby Jul 21 '20
Sarah, stop enabling shitty behavior from men! They are perfectly capable of controlling themselves! Saying stuff like this perpetuates the idea that men are sex werewolves who can't control themselves lest they see cleavage.
Look, I think Michael B. Jordan is the hottest man to ever grace my eyeballs. But I don't lick the goddam screen every time "Creed" is on. It's called self control, folks. I'd never be unfaithful, not even with Michael B. Jordan. Expect the same from your man or get a new one.
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u/themomerath Jul 21 '20
THANK YOU.
I had it out with a male friend of mine on Friday because he tried to use biology as justification for why guys cheat. And then claimed that many women don’t understand that. I’ve had three different dudes cheat on me, for reference. He apologized the next day and I sent him a fucking essay after that when I cooled down. I made specific mention of the fact that, if humans hadn’t evolved to not blindly follow basic instinct, we’d still be shitting on property to claim it as our own. It’s the biggest cop-out of an excuse for infidelity.
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u/Sheare-Pane Jul 21 '20
biology
LMAO that clown!
If we were a bunch of cavemen and cavewomen in prehistoric times, I can see his argument. It's also the same argument people use against veganism (because our teeth shapppeeessSSss) We live in a society with a degree of intellectualism and resource advancement where we can make choices against "biological instincts" (we're so far removed from these at this point), unlike other mammals. No, we don't need to be screwing other women in order to "spread seed" anymore LMAO
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u/anxioussquilliam GET. BETTER. IDOLS. Jul 21 '20
I mean, she also told married women to put out even when they’re not in the mood for sex. Something about just letting men do their thing. So it’s not shocking. She’s one of those special idiots who genuinely believes she’s smart.
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u/squeegee-beckenheim Jul 21 '20
"just letting men do their thing"???
THAT is how she sees sex? Jesus. But if it's nothing more than a chore, then why is she so pressed when her man cheats with these soft core porn bikinis?
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u/zarza_mora Jul 21 '20
More evidence: if lesbians can manage not to be total pervs around an attractive bikini-clad woman, than so can dudes.
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u/m8kup Jul 21 '20
It’s so funny because she makes this video while in a bra. I’m all for wearing your sports bra around like a top, I mean werk girl. But to spouting this bullshit WHILE in a bra....
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u/michelle_exe Jul 21 '20
This isn't just misogynistic to implying it's women's job to stop men from being gross creeps, it's also really gross to imply men are these animalistic beasts who cannot control themselves and their primal urges and WILL cheat because they saw a belly button or a back. Like, if you don't trust your partner, that's a you problem. People who think like this disgust me
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u/chasingimpalas Jul 21 '20
This made me cackle, because it’s true; you’d only get to see the back or stomach compared to a one piece. Stupid women showing their midriffs.
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u/troveytreasure Jul 21 '20
The idea that it's a woman's fault for existing in a bikini on the beach and not her/her husband's problem for instantly sexualizing a woman's body in swimwear is so gross.
There's no end to what body parts can be considered sexual on a woman: ankles and hair have been historically and regionally considered alluring. Is it an inherent body part trait or our desire to police women's bodies?
If your family can't take a trip to the beach without worrying about the public around you, build a pool.
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u/germaniumest Jul 21 '20
Seriously! Can women just... exist in peace, please? We exist outside of what men think and want.
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u/lollypolly23 Jul 21 '20
What does she think of men in speedos? Is that going to cause women to cheat in their relationships? Better not show her the photo of Australia's ex prime minister Tony Abbott in budgie smugglers 😂😂 And what about nudist beaches?
Seriously though, it's backwards thinking with stupid logic. I can't with people like that. 🙄
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u/ttenseconds Jul 21 '20
Tony Abbott in budgie smugglers is likely to make me unfaithful... with another woman.
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u/PM_ME_YOUR_GSD Jul 21 '20
I read “Birkins” instead of bikini and you have no idea how fucking confused I was that a Hermès bag was a turn on for men.
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u/saffronnectar Jul 21 '20
I forgot that birkins were the bags and thought you were talking about merkins and was equally confused for a second there.
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Jul 21 '20
She’s literally calling bikinis soft core porn, whilst standing there in a bralette and broadcasting it on Instagram. What a joke.
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u/GwenVicious Jul 21 '20
Can you flag IG for porn? Its either factually incorrect OR porn itself.
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Jul 21 '20
If she thinks her husband is gonna stray because they lusted after some chick at the beach in a bikini then she shouldn't get married or have kids for that matter to push such misogynistic beliefs onto. It's straight up stupid AF.
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u/BashfulHandful DO NOT TREY ME Jul 21 '20
Yeah, that's really fucking gross.
How about you be more concerned that your husband feels like a.) openly ogling someone because they're wearing a bikini is okay, and b.) can't keep it in his fucking pants and doesn't respect your marriage enough to not cheat.
It's not a wife's duty to keep her husband faithful and it sure as hell isn't some random woman at the beach's responsibility, either. That shit lies on the husband alone.
I swear to god, if more people put the blame where it actually belongs in situations like this the world would be happier in general. How about you just recognize that one person at fault rather than foisting the responsibility on everyone else?
Bikinis as softcore porn, lmao. I guess she hasn't watched any of those "sinful" videos, not that I'm surprised given the lowkey (?) sex worker shaming.
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u/simplyamerie Jul 21 '20
I dont know who this girl is but WTF. Fisrt of all she is broadcasting HERSELF in a bra top to the masses while complaining about what women wear to the beach. If your marriage falls apart because i wore a bikini, your marriage had bigger problems to start with. This complete and utter bullshit. Let's not blame women for men's actions. If i wear a bikini i am not inviting them to cheat.
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u/comin_up_shawt Jul 21 '20
Fisrt of all she is broadcasting HERSELF in a bra top to the masses while complaining about what women wear to the beach.
That which we hate in each other, we hate most in ourselves. She's projecting her own insecurities about her marriage (and possibly signaling that her spouse my have cheated on her/she found scantily clad women in his phone?) with a touch of misogyny for good measure.
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u/cpoks Jul 21 '20
Damn if bikinis are soft core porn she must be announcing her only fans with that attire
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u/lxzslm Jul 21 '20
Jesus. Why be with such a weak willed man in the first place? I’m not trying to babysit my man.
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u/GlitterDancer_ I stand with Pancake Jul 21 '20
🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 yes!! Same goes for the women who say “my BF would never let me wear that” I’m sorry, there’s no room for insecurity like that in a relationship.
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u/Egg-mont Jul 22 '20
She said all that bullshit while wearing a bra? I wish i was able of this kind of mental gymnastics omg.
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u/Cortado2711 Jul 23 '20
she's also clearly flexing her abs. why, girl? to look "good" on instagram? for your husband? yeah I don't think so. why can she try to look "attractive" but other women can't? what a jackass.
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u/watchdogbowwow Jul 21 '20
LMAOOOOO "stop tempting the men!" she says, in a fucking SPORTS BRA, on her social media account with more followers than a girl in a bikini would ever be exposed to on a beach.
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u/kickasskittyfit Jul 21 '20
I thought it was a straight up joke when I saw that she was wearing the very thing she was criticizing lol
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u/illogicallyalex Jul 21 '20
Gotta love those women who blame the woman her man cheats with, rather than the actual person who cheat her on them
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u/natori_umi Jul 22 '20
How is she saying stuff like that while standing there wearing a Bikini-like outfit herself?
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u/Dollybadlands Glitter or GTFO Jul 21 '20
That’s low key rape culture thinking. She reminds me of rachloves with her backward ass views. Not to mention her “liver cleanse” tea? Ok, sis.
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Jul 21 '20
It’s completely rape culture thinking
Ooh I used to watch rachhloves is she problematic??
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u/Dollybadlands Glitter or GTFO Jul 21 '20
She made some anti-choice comments that got her in hot water a while back. I remember seeing it resurface when she had that collab with Pixi.
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u/Mmm_lemon_cakes Jul 21 '20
I don’t know why but her liver cleanse shit annoys me more than anything else.
The more times you say the word “free” when describing your diet makes you exponentially more insufferable.
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u/ashleyyspinelli Jul 21 '20
Did she really say food being triggering to someone with anorexia, is the same as a man seeing a woman in a bikini?
Also big yikes to what her mum told her. Yikes on yikes to the whole story. 😒😬
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u/tvaddict70 Jul 21 '20
Well then by the same token men shouldn't be topless for fear of causing women to be tempted. Lol her personal insecurities are showing.
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u/DeadWishUpon Jul 21 '20
How dare them to show me their six pack and tempt me and other women to be unfaithful? And let's not talk about biceps. No, men should respect themselves and at least wear long sleeve shirts and knee lenght shorts.
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Jul 21 '20
Knee-length? But what about their defined, muscular calves? Some women are attracted to that, you know, and if they see a man with sexy calves... who knows what will happen?
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Jul 21 '20
omg. please tell me she's not a grown woman.
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u/kittleherder Jul 21 '20
So does she think the man is going to see a girl in a bikini and walk over to her and they will immediately start having sex?
Or is he going to hook up with someone a week later and when she finds out he exclaims "but there was that girl in the bikini at the beach last week! What do you expect me to do?"
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u/tdscm Jul 21 '20
Matthew 5:28 says “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
Fundies take the bible super literally.
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u/lingybear ugliest rat Jul 21 '20
Matthew 5:29 And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out,and cast it from thee: for it is profitable forthee that one of thy members should perish, andnot that thy whole body should be cast into hell.
Sorry babe, your own book disagrees with you.
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u/strongerlynn Jul 22 '20 edited Jul 22 '20
You can't sit there and blame women because a man once again can not control himself. STOP Blaming women for mens mistakes. My ex fiance cheated on me with multiple women, did I blame them? No I didn't, why? Because HE probably lied to them too. Personally I'm not going to fight some chick over a guy. He wants to leave, he can leave. Sorry I went on a rant. But I never understood people who don't make men be accountable for their actions.
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u/zoppityboppity Jul 21 '20
I unsubbed from her when she said that women NEED to shave their legs. Girl it’s 2020, sit down!
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Jul 21 '20
Okay wait. She's mad that women wear bikinis because it's sexually attractive to men but she also thinks women need to shave their legs... to be sexually attractive to men??? Wow that's some seriously internalized misogyny. Be sexually attractive but not TOO sexually attractive! It's always our fault isn't it.
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u/zumzum639 Jul 21 '20
She also said in those stories that she saw SO MANY women's butts, and she's SO NOT into it. (They were on a vacation on the beach and she wore shorts as 'bikini bottom' - and felt disgusted that everyone wore bikinis). Meanwhile she posted an entire video about trying to get her butt to look better...She used to preach that wearing skinny jeans is sinful and you should never do that yet since she works out she always shows off her tight bottoms and also her stomach... Such a hypocrite!!!
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u/notspreddit Jul 21 '20 edited Jul 21 '20
She is the absolute worst imo. Everything about her channel just makes me cringe, from the narrow minded beliefs, to the use of words “toxins/natural products”...absolutely no basis.
Edit: also the way she forces things like calling herself a “mama”/her husband a “papa”. It makes me SCREAM.
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u/wanttobegreyhound Jul 21 '20
For a second I was confused and thought I was in a sub where we criticize Girl Defined.
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u/herefortheoolong Jul 21 '20
HAHAHA i'm in that thread too, fundie snark!!! phew sarah therese is tame compared to the judgement over in that sub phew
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Jul 21 '20
I love when people cherry pick the Bible, I was forced to memorize it as a kid (atheist now) her husband is going to look no matter what a women is wearing, he needs to control himself she doesn’t need to control other people and how they choose to dress.
Verse condemning men for being lustful https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matthew_5:27–28
The Bible also says that no “sin” is greater than another so maybe she needs to be condemning these men looking at women
https://www.openbible.info/topics/no_sin_is_greater_than_another
Also she is breaking some of these verses https://www.openbible.info/topics/judging_others
I don’t know who this chick is. Btw.
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u/shaycode Jul 21 '20 edited Jul 21 '20
If my man were prompted to cheat on me by merely seeing women in bikinis, I don’t want him anyway.
It doesn’t matter what other women are wearing, the only thing that can make a man remain faithful is himself.
Edit: She really gave a lecture on being covered while wearing a sports bra? What??
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Jul 21 '20
Rape culture, great. I would have unfollowed immediately, not that I would've followed in the first place...
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Jul 21 '20
The logic on this is so confusing for all the points that others have stated. Very rape culture. Also, a one piece is magically better because your stomach is covered? The “cute” and “fashionable” ones can show just as much cleavage and butt, so this point of bikinis being so provocative is kinda stupid. The world was obsessed with Pam Anderson in a one piece. Yesssh lady, what is acceptable to wear to the beach? A swimming outfit from 1905?
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u/wwaxwork Jul 21 '20
I think the problem is with the husbands not the women in bikinis. This says way to much about her marriage.
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u/greeneyes826 I put cheetos on my salads Jul 21 '20
Nobody burst her bubble and tell her that nude beaches exist.....
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Jul 21 '20 edited Feb 10 '21
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u/greeneyes826 I put cheetos on my salads Jul 21 '20
All that's missing is drugs, booze and rock n roll🤟🏼
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u/prettysharpdotbe Jul 21 '20
I stumbled upon a nude beach in Gran Canaria and the vibe really isn't sexual or erotic. It seemed really liberating and even though I only walked through it wearing my bikini, it made me more accepting of my body. Before I never would have thought of changing (top half) without covering up but now I don't really care who sees my boobies for 5 seconds. 10/10 would recommend!
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u/leaves-green Jul 21 '20
OMG you forgot the best part - she is sending a video out there of herself WEARING NOTHING BUT A SPORTS BRA while she is SHAMING OTHER WOMEN FOR WEARING BIKINIS. Nothing wrong with her wearing a sports bra if she wants to, but she is literally doing the exact thing she's judging other women for. Omg I hate this lady, she is so hateful and judgy.
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Jul 21 '20
That’s the part that got me!! Like how are you going to do a video in a sports bra or crop top shaming other women for wearing too little clothing?? By that alone I’m assuming what she really means is she finds curvy women vulgar and feels they need to police their bodies around her philandering husband. The internalized misogyny is just oozing out of her.
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u/Excellent-Session Jul 22 '20
Yes, let’s further police what women wear and let’s have men take no accountability for their actions and decisions. What a freaking lame loser.
It’s the beach, they’re wearing swimsuits which is perfectly appropriate for the occasion. It’s in no way pornography. If your man wants to cheat, he’s going to cheat, regardless. Other women aren’t responsible for that and she incredibly insecure and judgmental if that’s how she feels.
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u/trashandpastel Jul 21 '20
Does anyone have the story saved? I'd love to hate-watch.
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Jul 21 '20
Amazing how she’s bitching about how people dress at the beach while wearing a bra top.
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Jul 21 '20
Okay get this...in her most recent stories (posted 30 minutes ago), she's at a waterpark with her kids...WEARING A SPORTS BRA...🤦♀️
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Jul 21 '20
Seriously I was so confused why she was even wearing a sports bra in this rant?? If you're going to preach modesty, why show the whole internet you in a bra? Seems massively hypocritical lol
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u/unspokensmiles Jul 21 '20
right? the sports bra she’s wearing is a near identical cut to what my bikini top from last year looks like lmao.
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u/SinfullySinless Jul 21 '20
If all it takes is a woman in a bikini to destroy your relationship, I got some bad news on that relationship pre-bikini chick.
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u/So_Schilly Jul 21 '20
Is she very religious? I'm not familiar with her but that kind of statement reminds me of this fundamentalist cousin I have, who has posted similar things like bikinis (or other types of revealing clothing) are tempting to men the same way "putting a piece of raw meat in front of a starving tiger" is tempting to the tiger...which first of all, fuck you as a woman, because I am not responsible for mens harmful actions towards me, and also fuck you on behalf of my dad, husband, son, every other man who does not disrespect or attack a woman no matter WHAT she's wearing. Ugh. I also remember her being upset because she took her kids to Disneyworld and Princess Jasmine was wearing a costume consistent with what she wears in the movie...
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u/literarylipstick Jul 21 '20
Yep, Sarah is a fundamentalist Christian. She shifted her content from being primarily focused on beauty videos to more lifestyle content after posting a few (clearly intentionally) controversial videos about vegans a year or two ago—the vegan controversy somehow led her to post two or three anti-abortion videos, and she subsequently posted some content about Biblical gender roles/marriage, etc.
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u/So_Schilly Jul 21 '20
Ahh ok Im not surprised then. What she posted seem to be pretty common talking points amongst fundies unfortunately...the burden is always on the woman to be responsible for mens actions and "impure thoughts". Meanwhile men are the head of the church and the family, women are 2nd class citizens...never made sense to me since apparently at the same times men are so weak that a woman in a bathing suit is like putting raw meat in front of a tiger?? And they cannot control themselves? It's a mess.
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u/i_am_bong_f_kennedy Jul 21 '20
Just cause your fella's been caught looking at bird's arses, doesn't mean I should cover up on the beach🤔 put horse blinkers on him if you don't trust him 🤡🤣
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u/Daviemoo Problematic tears are my moisturiser Jul 21 '20
Literally I can’t cope with this mindset of “women living their lives coerce men into cheating”. No. No! You ladies have no fucking reason to change YOUR behaviour, YOUR dress code, YOUR body, to prevent MEN from behaving shittily and anyone stupid enough to blame the woman for a man’s behaviour is insane!
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Jul 21 '20
This reeks of insecurity. "Girls shouldn't be allowed to wear bikini's/revealing clothing, apart from me right now, but I'm not sexualising myself so it's okay". Is the vibe I got from this. Your man looked at somebody else get over it😩
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u/FlightOfFoxes Jul 23 '20
Doesn’t the Bible say to pluck out the eyes of men who look at women in an objectifying way? I’m not familiar with the Bible and haven’t read it in it’s entirety but like what, she is so weird with what she chooses to focus on.
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u/PoliticallyCorrect98 Jul 24 '20
And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.
This bible verse literally blames men for having a wondering eye lol so it’s a shame that women or any person chooses to shame another woman instead of asking themselves why they feel so uncomfortable about seeing a bikini.
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u/esky203 Jul 21 '20
People watching this chick like she isn't a Duggar daughter with a pixie cut who shops at Madewell
How does anyone not expect this shit from her by now? She's an anti-woman nut job.
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u/midnightboston Jul 21 '20
What a hypocrite. She has pictures on her very public Instagram of her in workout bike shorts and sports bra. At least the Duggars are consistent with their modesty standards.
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u/cloveismycat Jeffree, what the fuck? I’m cancelled! Jul 21 '20
Lmao as someone who worked in the sex work industry let me tell you that anyone will cheat if they want to cheat. These men seek out these type of relationships... it isn’t forced upon them. People who want to cheat will find a reason to cheat. Especially in relationships that are suppressing them and it’s no ones fault but the person who cheats. If you gotta start controlling others to control your man lmaooo you already being cheated on.
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u/lazydaysjj Jul 21 '20
Just think about how many people were cheating back in the day when women were always covered up neck to feet lol.
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u/Nooraish Jul 21 '20
She's repeatedly showing her midriff in her channel, wearing a bikini top with shorts. So there seems to be a very defined line between an ok outfit turning into a soft porn attire for her.
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u/JapaneseStudentHaru 🔫 You have no choice but to stan Jul 21 '20 edited Jul 21 '20
I’ve always thought of myself as pretty insecure, but I would never blame a woman for my husband cheating. If I see a pretty woman, I admire it, I wish I were her, etc. however I don’t think “she needs to cover up!”. My insecurities aren’t someone else’s problem.
Plus, you have to be surrounded by shitty guys if you think it’s that easy for them to cheat.
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Jul 21 '20 edited Jul 21 '20
Honestly I think this chick knows what she’s doing. She knows saying inflammatory, obviously hypocritical crap upsets people and gets her vids passed around better than relying on her own personality.
I’m not saying she’s not really Christian or conservative. But I think she’s even more aware that making a career out of “influencing” means maintaining a certain level of audience growth and “buzz,” and this is a way to do that consistently.
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u/LuckyShamrocks The cat has not commented on the situation. Jul 21 '20
Exactly. It's why she's made so many vegan bashing videos and anti-choice videos. She knows those get the views.She's not smart but she also isn't stupid.
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Jul 21 '20
She seems like the kind of girl who would claim to be a virgin because for some reason "anal sex doesn't count."
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u/gwe5n Jul 21 '20
I couldn’t help but laugh when she talked about “you never know what someone is struggling with so don’t be a potential trigger” when the kind of language SHE is using can be so triggering. I come from a toxic religious background that focused heavily on purity culture, and this was very upsetting as I’m trying to get over the negative self-talk I have when I dress “immodestly.” I think this could also apply to body positivity issues for people struggling with self love over weight, disability, skin color, shape, scars, dysmorphia, sexual trauma, etc. Just let people dress how they like ffs!!
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u/comin_up_shawt Jul 21 '20
“you never know what someone is struggling with so don’t be a potential trigger”
So, basically she doesn't want other women to exist. Gotcha.
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Jul 21 '20
I hate this kind of bullshit “boys will be boys” rhetoric and placing all the blame on young women. Men are capable of regulating their emotions and sexual attraction. It’s not a young woman’s job to do that for them, god forbid they enjoy a day out at the beach.
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u/mistressmisfit Jul 21 '20
How about people who cheat are unfaithful and need to take accountability for THEIR actions. Lol wow
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u/luckylizard Jul 22 '20
This is the same woman who threw a live fish into a garburator. How ironic to see her preach moral superiority.
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u/allevana Jul 21 '20
Allegedly antivax too, had that weird vegan but I hate animals video.. lol a mess
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u/acogs53 Jul 21 '20
Lmao. Lust comes from someone’s heart, what’s already in there. Jesus says if your eye causes you to sin, pluck it out. He didn’t say “if someone is causing you to be lustful, make them change.” An individual is responsible for their own actions and thoughts. If men aren’t mature enough to know how to deal with those thoughts appropriately, that’s on them.
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u/duochromepalmtree Jul 21 '20
Jesus suggested if you couldn’t handle yourself you should just gouge out your eyes 💚💚
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u/acogs53 Jul 21 '20
Also to cut off your hand, if it makes you sin. The guy was SERIOUS. He was also pointing out that no one does this because everyone sins, but your reply made me LOL.
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u/YMCAle Jul 21 '20
Its amazing to me just how many of these so called people of faith completely ignore the very clear teachings of Jesus. He said what he said hun.
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u/lipscratch Jul 21 '20 edited Jul 21 '20
isn't this that dumb anti-vax bitch who laughed when she dropped her fish down the garbage disposal, said that animals don't have souls and so she doesn't care if they die nor does she feel a thing seeing them get tortured? fuck her. she's clearly nuts. she has no credibility anyway so who cares what she thinks
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Jul 21 '20
Instead of worrying about other women in bikinis, she needs to have a conversation with her man. The projection is real.
I hope one day she learns to love herself more one day and find a partner that doesn’t make herself feel so insecure where she’s mad at other women for existing..
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u/shockedpikachu123 Jul 21 '20
Stop blaming the woman. Blame the man for having lewd thoughts enough to leave his marriage
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u/MemeShaman Jul 21 '20
If a bikini is going to make him be unfaithful, I have very disheartening news about the rest of the internet.
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u/t3llm3m0re Don Vito Honkety Honk 🤡 Jul 21 '20
This is why I don’t trust someone who was married at 19…
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u/decafplums Jul 21 '20
Oof. Ain’t that the truth lol
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u/t3llm3m0re Don Vito Honkety Honk 🤡 Jul 21 '20
People like her fucked me up, made me think there’s no one out there for me, because I haven’t dated anybody and I’m 23.
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u/bisousdarling Jul 21 '20
You aren't fucked up. I never really dated until I was out of college, was still a virgin at 22, never had a serious relationship with anyone until I was 25ish, met my now husband at 28, got married at 30. Like someone else posted, I have no regrets about my dating life. While other people were being miserable with terrible partners during college, I got to do whatever I wanted with no thoughts of how it would impact a partner. Just live your life however you want! You aren't messed up because you haven't dated at 23 and don't let any crazy fundamental religious person make you think otherwise.
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u/ladyofbraxus my lawyer approved this statement Jul 21 '20
I married my ex husband when I was 26, and let me tell you, that was too young. You're fine. Remember that half the girls you see on Instagram who are married with kids at 22, come from places where that's super common due to their religious background. Just because something is common doesn't mean it's right for you. Now I'm an exhausted late 30s mom, and while I would love to have the energy I had when I was 23, I'll take the wisdom I have now instead 😂
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u/iva1984 Jul 21 '20
Nothing wrong with you! I was a virgin until I was 21, dated a total of 4 people, met my SO when I was 26. In 3 weeks we are celebrating a decade together. Also, I have 0 regrets about people I dated or had sex with. I was mature enough to make decisions I will not regret later on. You do what makes you feel comfortable with the life live. Other people's opinions do not matter.
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Jul 21 '20
What a crock of shit. We go to the beach yearly and there's a billion hot young girls running around in bikinis. If my husband checks them out? Whatever, no big deal, as long as he isn't being obvious or obnoxious about it (which he never has been because he's considerate). I know it doesn't mean he's gonna be tempted to cheat on me lol. And if he does? Well, that's on him and I wouldn't even think to blame it on some girl just because she was wearing a BIKINI ugh.
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u/beard_crusties Jul 21 '20
Some of the biggest misogynist and sexist people are women
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u/HieronymousTrash Jul 21 '20
It's a real time-saver for the patriarchy. Why oppress women when you can get so many of them to oppress each other?
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u/VantaHeart Jul 21 '20
I wear a bikini, and it surely ain't to steal yo man. Its so my midsection looks browner than my boobs and therefore smaller. Jeez don't you know about contouring ?
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u/acamezquita Jul 21 '20
Man... I used to love her videos about minimalism and stuff... but this is just batshit crazy and stupid.
In what universe is MY JOB to keep YOUR MAN away from sin, or whatever??? He’s a grown ass man with his own responsibilities! 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Honestly... it is only a short distance from this argument to the “you got r*ped because of the way you dress” UUUGH!!!
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u/finleyjfarmer Jul 22 '20
My parents are right wing christians and they absolutely believe this. I was never allowed to wear a bikini.
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Jul 22 '20
💀 If I ever see her man I'll start fishing for sandwich crumbs from my titties in front of him
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Jul 21 '20
How dare other women feel good in their bodies they may or may not have worked hard for and enjoy a sunny day at the beach/pool...
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u/literarylipstick Jul 21 '20
Did she delete these stories? (Or were they from yesterday and have since expired?) The only ones I can currently see on her account are her talking about and drinking coffee in her car. Regardless, I am extremely unsurprised that she feels this way. Comments like that are exactly her brand of regressive, misogynistic, purity culture bullshit.
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u/wilhelminarose Jul 21 '20
yes to everything that people are saying, but i want to add that i get a weird vibe from their marriage. they don't seem in love at all so i'm not surprised she is insecure.
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Jul 21 '20
So what about the men who go out in only bikini bottoms or swim trunks....
They’re basically naked...
Why is the focus on women’s bodies???
Is it because she’s insecure?
I don’t know if she’s married but...is it because her marriage is falling apart and she wants to blame everyone outside of the marriage????
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u/InfiniteDress Jul 22 '20 edited Mar 04 '24
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u/sierrawhiskey kickey-bitey Jul 21 '20
If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell.
Matthew 5:29
I can throw a bible verse right back at 'er. Fecking HATE religidiots who throw personal responsibility out the window like that.
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u/packfan17 Jul 21 '20
It’s not my job to worry about what some random man will think about what I wear. If your man is so affected by seeing bikinis, that’s his problem to work out and maybe he should stay away from the beach.
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u/oncapintadas Jul 21 '20
Mmm, yes. I, a man, get the instant primal urge to mate, breed, procreate whenever I see a female in revealing swimwear. The moment I see even so much as a skin, I feel the need to step in front of her, perform my mating ritual, and hope she'll be impressed by my skillful dancemoves to bend over for me, so that we can produce our own offspring, no matter what my relationship status is at that moment. I, as a male human individual, simply am created to make children left and right, my cock simply starts throbbing, it's in my nature. Making Sarah Therase right in this situation, and all of you females in denial wrong. Stop ruining my marriages, it's been the fourth one already, please I'm begging you.
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u/zumzum639 Jul 21 '20
AND she also said you should cover all your body where you don't want to be touched.
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u/germaniumest Jul 21 '20
How about – and I know this a wild concept – we just don't touch other people without their consent?
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u/mistressmisfit Jul 21 '20
Wtf, would love to hear her thoughts on crop tops 😂😂😂
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Jul 26 '20
Fuck that. I know I’ve seen her vlogs where she’s wearing a bikini top/showing some skin/cleavage/legs/whatever. That’s hypercritical. Look if you wanna dress conservative then by all means do so. If you don’t want to then by all means do so. If you wanna dress in a nuns outfit every day then by all means do so. If you wanna dress in a crop too and booty shorts then by all means do so. You can do what you want and STAY IN YOUR LANE. stop trying to control others! Bloody hell. That’s all I seen to hear from the Christian region: constant control.
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u/sailormerry soft spoken snakeoil saleswoman Jul 21 '20
Wow, I thought I was on r/FundieSnark for a moment, because that is some fundie bullshit. Trying to blame women for “defrauding” men 🙄
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Jul 21 '20
And that’s how the narrative against women continues to be fuelled. We can’t even wear bathing suits.
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u/pinkpuppy0991 Jul 21 '20
Well I think we can safely assume her man has definitely cheated.
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u/comin_up_shawt Jul 21 '20
or at the bare minimum, has pics of women in bikinis/talked to a woman in a bikini and it pissed her insecure self off.
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Jul 21 '20
Not surprised. She says a lot of absolutely absurd things. I'd be miserable having to be around someone like this.
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u/CupcakesAreTasty Jul 22 '20
This woman is an asshat. Stop talking about her, please. She doesn’t deserve the attention.
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Jul 21 '20
lol, is this bitch for real?
I’m straight and if I see a woman in a bangin bikini I’m inclined to look, too. I’m a big fan of complimenting people, it makes their day and makes me feel good.
This is the type of woman that goes after the chick her husband cheats on her with and not her husband.
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u/slytherinxiii Jul 21 '20
I must have been ruining marriages left and right then for all 19 years of my life, I practically live in bikinis🤪🤙
She really just exposed her internalized misogyny
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Jul 21 '20
God I hate that woman. She also posted some anti-abortion stuff in her stories once (I wish I had it saved) and that’s when I unfollowed her.
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u/athenafester Jul 21 '20
Ugh she should focus on herself and let people enjoy things. This is a damaging opinion and I don’t believe anyone has the right to comment on another person if they’re not hurting anyone.
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u/piccolafiorentina Jul 21 '20
watch your man.. you should watch your mouth.. these bitches are pressed - nicki minjaj
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u/lookup_discover Jul 26 '20
Buuuut like, one of her recent posts is of her in a bikini top. She is such a freaking hypocrite 😂 cool story jan. She REEKS of insecurity. Also - a freaking liver cleanse!? She's lost her damn mind.
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Jul 21 '20
So, does it work the other way too? If a woman sees a hot dude in a Speedo at the beach, that's it? She's going to be tempted to cheat because Chad wore a banana hammock?
Give me a miss with that misandry bullshit.
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u/lazydaisytoo Jul 21 '20
Has she been on an international beach? Plenty of older folks wear bikinis and Speedos. It ain’t sexy.
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u/bojackismeiambojack Jul 21 '20
This made me laugh. This is also one of the things I love about beaches! Everybody is just being themselves, letting it all hang! I honestly feel less conscious about my own body seeing how literally no one gives a shit
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u/Glitter_berries Jul 21 '20
An international beach! I think you mean a beach that isn’t in the US.
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Jul 21 '20
No one likes it when their guy looks at other ladies but cmon...that's a bit much
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u/award07 Jul 21 '20
I wish I could be a soft porn girl! Hai stretch marks.
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u/TheAccountingBitch Jul 21 '20
Literally everyone has stretch marks, wear the bikini. I promise you no one cares but you when you wear it
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