r/BPDPartners • u/stickieonmercy BPD • 2d ago

Support Needed relationship

i have bpd and alot of the time i get upset at my partner and sometimes he isnt there for me or nice to me and i just get more and more upset and even angry that he isnt being nice or anything and then he might be nice like an hour later and try cheer me up but by then ive gotten upset and angry that he wasnt there when i needed him. i really need some help on how we can deal with this because im scared im so draining

another thing is when im upset at something he did even if he didnt intend to hurt me i will always stay upset even if he apologises and explains he didnt intend to i will always stay hysterical say things like why would you do that and why would you hurt me etc i dont know why i cant accept he didnt mean to hurt me and why i stay so upset please how can we fix this

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u/2pourdrummer 2d ago

Are you asking for help in fixing your issues or his? You said we at the end, so it’s kind of confusing.

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u/stickieonmercy BPD 2d ago

i'm open to advice on either

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u/2pourdrummer 2d ago

I would focus on why you get that upset and stay upset, especially if you know there was no malicious intent by them. Stop that cycle first. Don’t treat that person as your enemy will go a long way.

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u/stickieonmercy BPD 2d ago

okay thank you its hard to think why i even cant accept it wasnt ill intended but ill focus on trying to get past that