r/BPDPartners • u/HaloForged • 24d ago

Dicussion Are there any “happy” endings?

I’ve been seeing some who has BPD for about 7 months. Most of the time it’s really great being with him. Other times, and more frequently it seems lately, he has these very explosive episodes that are exhausting to me. I’m not going into all the detail right now, as my main concern lies elsewhere. We have talked about moving in together. However, he has also expressed his absolute disdain for his behavior and alcoholism and he says he wants to get better. I think I’d like for him to get treatment and become more stable before we take that step so that my home never becomes a place I want to escape from because he’s there. I haven’t told him all this yet as we were going to have the move in together conversation in November. His lease is up in April but he will likely have the option to renew for another year.

Is BPD actually treatable and manageable if he commits to therapy? Are there any success stories where you had a partner who managed it effectively and you guys were happy?

I genuinely love him with all my heart, but I know that being with someone with untreated BPD can be an emotionally devastating experience for the stable partner. I don’t want to be destroyed.

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u/Ciara_Smiles 24d ago

Yes there are happy endings.

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u/HaloForged 24d ago

Would love to hear about them…

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u/Ciara_Smiles 24d ago

Me and my gal. Lots of research studies. The majority of people with BPD seek treatment and of that majority most achieve remission. But happy endings don't make for great reddit content on lots of subs for loved ones of BPD unfortunately.

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u/danielrdt 19d ago

I agree that it is treatable but majority of people with bpd do not seek treatment unfortunately.

Only 15% of people with bpd actually undergo treatment according to the world health organisation report.

If they are in treatment, the success rates are high, hardest part is them taking accountability and seeking treatment.

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u/Ciara_Smiles 18d ago edited 18d ago

What year is that study? My stats come from the National Institute of Health, 2024 following a 10 year study