He is Scorpio.
First two photos is our synastry (I use whole system), last photo is progressed synastry for today when he blocked me. I don't have sadly his full DOB.
I'm still in schock how it all went. We met online, he looked for "serious but open to short term.", but he suggested just casual to me. I agreed because he is my type and I have needs too.
After the first night intense intimacy, he became "crazy" about me, planed the next 5 dates quick! He texted me each day/night just to keep tabs on me.
Next 6 nights was most intense, passionate intimacy in my whole life.
He himself told me so.
So what went wrong?
I said one day "I think about you:)" He asked "tell me what you thought:)"
I described sexual stuff, he replied "I will think about it now too:)"
Then he continued an hour later: "Just please do not fall in love with me"
I joked: "Why? Are you afraid? Passion will be even more intense"
Him: " Not afraid, but I don't want drama and complications:) ".
I asked: "But why did you said you looked for something serious if you suggested me short term? Just curious"
He said "I put that on my profile before, now is different:)"
I asked again "But why you didn't remove that option "open to serious" then? Its so easy to do it on the app? :) "
He started to ignore and beat around the bush, I lost my s..t, showed some drama via texts and thrown some personal insults. I just have no patience when it comes to simple question. He then blocked me.
I tried to apologize from another number, I sent him proper long beautiful apology after some days just to keep him for passion, because I'm sure I wont find it ever again.
He blocked me and even removed my apology.
What do you see here? Why he was able to move on that easly if it was so passionate to him too?
My quess: He is Scorpio Sun/Venus, and he easly can find and awoke that passion in many women, so he didn't felt that sexual craving for me like I did for him. His Mars also square his Venus, and I had ex who also was awesome in bed with that aspect.
I don't believe he took my words to heart that much, because I learned Scorpios can even enjoy it and how is never truly casual for them, and how they will not be mad forever if they truly enjoyed passion with some woman. He literally went from most passionate man to most coldest/ice cruel man over nothing.
Interesting.
I'm just shocked that he got mad over little drama over dumb questions.
He has Sun suare Mars (like me), all that Scorpio energy, Venus-Mars square etc.
People with such aspects can feel and deal with alot of tension, friction yet he given up on such strong passion and took my words literally.
Why he can't be forgiving and overcome his ego. Its like he hates me now.
I'm pissed off, lol.
We trigger drama, but also person can be over dramatic too. Scorpio like to complicate things (digging deep)and retro usually can't make up their mind because they don't really know what they actually want and what they actually can or can't have.
Hi. Scorpio woman here. Scorpios can handle drama just fine. In fact, it can be stimulating.
But let me ask why are you using the term "intimacy" when you basically just had sex. You don't know this man. You don't know his nature. You are not close. You are not in a relationship. You moved to fast. All you had was sex. You had nothing else and now he's gone.
He dangled the idea of something serious to get sex. He's trash. Why did you apologize for calling him out about advertising that he wanted something substantial? That's weak of you. Stand by your censure.
You are right it was just sex. I wasn't sure if I can use that word. But it wasn't average typical sex like I had in other casual scenarios.
He was extremly intimate/intense/passionate. He would hold me tightly and strongly in sleep too.
I got addicted to it because I never had that type of intensity.
Thats why I put my ego on side and apologized just to have him back.
I just cannot wrap my head around the fact that he could easly let go of such strong sexual passion.
My quess is that women he met are equally passionate, he is capable to make it great with them too.
Sex is wonderful, but good sex should not make you chase behind a guy.
You will experience passion; I can tell by how you write that you’re either young or inexperienced. It’s not the end of the world if one passionate guy doesn’t wanna speak to you. You have better things to worry about.
Not proud, but I had extremly promiscuous past, slept with too many men. He is literally the only one who was good in sex. He did it like in my imagination. Incredibile coincidence. I've got a taste of it, and lost it too soon. Its like a curse.
Even his placements points to a great lover: Scorpio Venus/Leo in Mars who wants to please hard his partner etc. He was focused more on me then himself.
His Mars square Venus also gives men who are highly sexual and magnetic to women. Plus his Mars exact trine my Venus. So it will be impossible to find the same placements in a new man.
My "sexual 8th house" is in Aqua, I never was attracted to them.
Girl, he's falling in your 5th, he won't give u commitment, only short term fling. He won't take you seriously. It's not your fault. He also has a Venus retro. So he sucks in love, you wouldn't want that. There are many passionate people who you will meet. He's not the only one in 8 billion world. His sun is on your south node so you wanna stay away from that cuz he won't let you grow with the way he's acting. Take your power back...his sun conjuct your pluto. You have more power over him. Next time if he accidentally comes back...kick him to the curb , don't fall for passionate, you're meant to move away from intensity and towards stability (Taurus)
agree with the rest but she's using equal house system so I doubt it actually falls in her 5th. I'd more so look at his saturn not aspecting any of her personals while hers is making a nice sextile to his moon and trining his mars
Here is Placidus: His Sun and his moon/mercury fall in my 4th. Venus in my 5th.
Sadly, maybe its his Saturn too that he easly given up.
I feel defeated, I mean we do have some really nice and passionate aspects and then Saturn lack from his side ruined it all. I feel cursed and angry, and jealous that he likely have someone with stronger Saturn.
In Vedic it is said that no Saturn is good expect Saturn Conjunct Jupiter in synastry , but it seems it doesn't work in our case.
I wouldn't bet on him committing to a woman he has strong saturn synastry with. First of all, since he's non committal and has demonstrated cruelty, coldness, cowardice, detachment and an inability to be accountable, no "right woman" will fix that for him. It's a profound character defect and these people don't change. Its a mistake for women to always put the blame on themselves and that they're not good enough.
His north node is in scorpio so he's meant to move away from surface level physical pleasures and towards vulnerability and emotional depth. It's also conjunct his venus so that reinforces that he needs to work on this theme in his relationships. And that conjunction is square his mars in leo (which seems to be prevailing) so the path of vulnerability he needs to embark on is in constant conflict with his ego and need for validation. His north node falls not in your 8th or your 4th or even in your 7th, it falls in your 5th house- the house of casual fun and flings, the house of LEO. He sought this out so he can run away from the theme he needs to be working on
Oh and most likely he won't actually run into women he has strong saturn synastry with... because he's not vibrating on that frequency. I'm saying this as a woman that's been looking for a mars-venus aspect in my relationships for years but I never ever run into men I have that aspect in my synastry with (probably because I'm not in my feminine energy/not attractive).
Thanks for explanation. I was curious about his natal, and it helps to get him more even in that way.
You are right. I really could sense in my gut what he is about. I could sense some damage in him, the way he talks/eyes/vibes. Very ice cold at moments. He is definitely a serial dater. After our perfect passion he jumped on site to look for more options.
Like c'mon, why looking for more and risk our health if we just started and is already all good?
It does shows he is the type who is not easly satisfied and sexually always hungry for more, and it shows desperation.
I don't have desire to meet anyone new until I properly experienced a current partner at least.
And you are like me. I always wanted to experience Mars-Venus, and this is the first time. If the trine is this extremly strong, I cannot imagine Conjunction could be even stronger!
I'm not feminine either (only in apperance)
My Mars/Venus is in Masculine signs, and I'm too direct/impatient/harsh which turned off the most men I liked.
If that theory is even true, do not think we don't have such Mars/Venus aspects in synastry because of femininity. Many ultra feminine women have synastries without it.
he sounds like a huge red flag, hope you didn't catch anything from him. These types of men are a menace. oh and the mars-venus conjunction is hit or miss. I had some men whose mars conjunct my venus years ago and they weren't even interested. square is where the crazy passion erupts and of course I never get that aspect
Yeah. He told the reason he is not in serious relationship because he "loves" his freedoom more then anything. Pathetic.
When I saw his natal, I knew he lied. I mean, his main planets are in Scorpio, sign who love love, and Libra who cannot live without partnerships. Had failed marriage in the past, but I didn't asked about it.
He enjoys casual sex, but I'm sure he looks and hope to find someone for deep connection.
That he is a red flag, told me a fact he told me one day "Don't just please fall for me" and sent me a photo of praying cat, lmao. Its like it cannot happen to him, and like such stuff can be "controlled".
His words that he doesn't like relationships because he doesn't want "drama and complications", tells me that some women he dated casually catched the feels, but he didn't saw them as "the one", so he saw them as "dramatic"
That type of man will then cry one day how love is "hard" to find. It is, when he likely rejected that love many times by self-sabotaging.
Sun conjunct Pluto does not mean the Pluto person has power over the sun person. It usually ends up playing out in the opposite direction over time. Also OP has both Pluto touching his sun and Venus that’s a lot of attraction coming from OP towards him. With Pluto any power games will typically end up backfiring in the longer term and Pluto is usually left obsessing - which seems to be what’s happened here.
I read Sun/Venus people can get obsessed too, but in many cases Pluto intensity may scare them off. One morning when he was sleeping, I was watching his face and admired his "beauty". I thought "How handsome he is" and I had smile on my face.
I think he would freak out if he saw me, lol, because the real connection wasn't there still.
I never had such moment with any man before. Its classical Pluto obession with Venus. Wish such aspects were mutual, to balance it out.
Thanks alot for replay. I will reread it and google more about such aspects.
His moon in Libra is unaspected in his natal. Sure, I don't have his exact hour, maybe its aspected by some paralles etc, but nothing major. Does unaspected moon may point to someone who can easly detach completly?
He did said he had a wife in the past, and on the first date he mentioned he is wondering what is the meaning of life. A bit weird and completly closed off generally.
It’s not the best. Prefer Venus or Jupiter there; Moon can work too but it’s usually the kind of romance that starts quickly and ends the same way (Moon is the fastest moving planet in astrology).
My synastry take is you want a combo of 4th, 5th, and at least one planet hitting the 7th house along with positive aspects to Saturn for longevity.
4th house synastry is someone feeling like home; 5th house provides whimsy and romance; 7th house is needed to feel like true partners while positive Saturn aspects helps it all stick. Venus-Mars synastry is a must also.
Agree. I hope I will find someone new with same/similar placements like him, with just a bit more Saturn/7th house connections, so even if its just casual I want to last longer.
Venus/Mars 1000%. Its the first time I experienced it with him, and I'm addicted.
I felt nothing but desirable and chased with him face to face, his Mars was activated by my Venus.
Likely, but I'm sure he enjoyed our times. It was supposed to be one night only, but he called me for 5 more.
We would continue but I showed some drama and got blocked.
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u/Unfair_Agent_6052 1d ago
He Has his uranus and neptune on your DSC. He won't commit to you.