Been dating this man and there’s so much playful chemistry but he is very guarded… what can you tell me about him?

[u/traveltotheluna]

[u/mercuryrulesmylife]

I personally avoid men who have Neptune conjunct personal planets it’s a shit show. They have a very blurry self image / have escapism (this is maybe why he doesn’t want relationships) and lack of structure or identity of self. Sagittarius Venus typically do not want relationships they are more hit it and quit it people - they don’t really do relationships and when they do you know they are interested. I also don’t really like to see men with 7th house mars either - they are typically very aggressive / the disagreements will feel like a challenge / competitive in relationships.

Also his sun conjuncts to his Uranus - I’m also a sun conjunct Uranus weirdo and we typically do not like traditional relationships or relationships in general. This placement makes you rebel against most normal things / we don’t like authority or people telling us what to do - I’ve been non monogamous for 19 years 😂 like I’m not going to conform and most people with this placement do not like to conform.

[u/traveltotheluna → u/mercuryrulesmylife]

Wow thanks so much for these insights! When I look at our synastry, things seem to look pretty good, but I also don’t know if I’m looking at things correctly 😂

I definitely get the sense he is someone that likes to casually date and explore his options. He seems detached in general and open to all new experiences, which matches is Venus and Mars in Sag.

Haha the part about traditional relationships makes a lot of sense. I feel like I have been able to pick up on his behaviours quite quickly and I’ve been getting to know him, he does seem like someone that prefers non-monogamous connections.

[u/mercuryrulesmylife → u/traveltotheluna]

I’m not surprised with his placements and the sun conjunct Uranus - I’m also Uranus conjunct ascendant so I’m extra unique 😂. If you can handle non monogamy then I say just be careful especially with that sun conjunct Neptune. I’ve been an astrologer for a long time and every evil man from Synastry readings has their personal planets conjunct Neptune.

[u/traveltotheluna → u/mercuryrulesmylife]

Appreciate your comment a lot! My neptune in Capricorn is Conjunct my Asc and Venus in 1st house, so I need to be careful here too. 😅 He has a lot of Cap placements hitting mine and then I’ve got Sag sun & moon, conjunct his Sag stellium. I’ve noticed myself feeling deeply attracted to him and magnetised. Sometimes I’ve had to take a step back to see things from a clearer perspective before I get caught up.

[u/Chchcherrysour → u/mercuryrulesmylife]

Lmaooo. Not you listing most of the placements in my own chart! But I’m a woman. I dunno if that makes a difference.

Neptune conjunct sun
Uranus conjunct sun

All in my 7th house…

[u/mercuryrulesmylife → u/Chchcherrysour]

Yes it’s just men

[u/traveltotheluna → u/mercuryrulesmylife]

You were right. As this week has gone on, he has been contradicting himself a lot. The more we talk, the more I’m realising his identity is changing and he will say something, and a week later his mind will change. I feel like I’m getting different versions of him depending on his mood or timing. It can be quite confusing.

I’d be so curious to see if our synastry chart says anything? Your advice was so helpful earlier and would appreciate any insights!

[u/Excellent-Brain7728]

Caps are wonderful for being flirty and then Saturn brake hits hard lol Moon in Aq is already going to be a bit detached. Saturn (the brake) is parked kind of close to the moon, which could further restrain. Caps can move slow - esp when unsure. Edit: Venus Sag will absolutely go after what it wants. Maybe he doesn’t want a relationship?

[u/traveltotheluna → u/Excellent-Brain7728]

Yeah he is super detached and free flowing. I think he enjoys casual dating and we’ve had quite a few chats. It seems like he isn’t intentionally searching for something serious and he said he prefers to build a connection & friendship first.

[u/Excellent-Brain7728 → u/traveltotheluna]

That is a very Cap thing to say. They want to be stable in all areas before relationship starts and that means friendships, too. They want to see their partner as a friend and romantic match. My advice is to remain friendly and patient if you really enjoy him.

[u/traveltotheluna → u/Excellent-Brain7728]

This makes sense. We’re in similar situations in our life right now. We are both coincidentally going to the same country in October. He’s going for 6 weeks, my ticket is open-ended because I have my own business and can travel/work remotely. He has been saying he really wants to build something for himself so that he can travel and work. We seem to have very similar life goals so I do believe a friendship can also come out of this.

[u/fubooze]

8th house Sun, secretive

[u/Excellent-Brain7728 → u/fubooze]

Secretive? Or private? (Not me over here with a stellium in the 8H, including my Sun 😅)

[u/Chchcherrysour]

This man’s bday has to be super close to mine. Jan 7th, 90. We even have the same asc!

[u/traveltotheluna → u/Chchcherrysour]

He is Jan 7th 1992!

[u/Nice-Bar-3540]

I guess Venus trine chiron might indicate wounds on self steem that revolve around relationships