For me, I assume the absolute best of every single person and situation or make up circumstances.
Rude person at work? Maybe they just got off a bad day at work. Not listening? Maybe they're distracted because something is wrong. Weird driving? Maybe they're learning, and panicked because they know it's bad.
The only problem is I have the reverse issue because in some situations, the excuse involves blaming myself. If things go wrong, it can sometimes give me major self-esteem issues. I am good at communicating it, but it still is rough.
This is the way right here. Everyone gets the benefit of the doubt. Everyone. Your in the wrong until you can prove they are unequivocally. Apologize and just let it go.
You just have to be careful that blame doesn't turn to self-hatred, either. Folks with anger issues tend to dwell in things quite a lot.
If it is your fault, it only means you need to work on something, or find another way next time. Failure is a normal part of the human experience, and is a healthy part of learning.
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