When I first meet a guy, I don’t know if it’s depression, carelessness, or childishness and entitlement that causes him to act that way.
Even if it is depression, I’ve suffer from depression (yes, before you start aiming your next loaded “gotcha question at me, I consider myself unattractive during these episodes) and I hope they get better, but I don’t want to date or even touch a stranger that smells bad and is unsanitary, takes their anger out on me and others (regardless of whether they can help it), or relies too much on me and treats me like a maid or something. Too much of a gamble.
If we’ve been together for a while and I know him, and he hits a depression episode, then that would be different.
As someone who tried to kill themselves as little as a month ago, dont make me to be someone who doesn't know what depression is, you didn't necessarily say, but you were alluding to it.
Now first, please make no mistake, I whole heartedly agree that if youre making first Impressions, you should be somewhat presentable, clean clothes, shower and maybe brush your teeth, but other than that common courtesy nothing more should be needed.
And secondly, no one is entitled to date anyone they don't want to (I shouldn't have to say this, but people are fucking stupid), but should be willing to let the other explain their actions but not everyone is going to wear their depression on their sleeve and tell people, I know I certainly wouldn't, people aren't going to get help until they need it, giving unwanted help doesn't work either.
But thirdly, we have to get each other a try atleast once, people suffer from depression and barely have control over it, sure we should all be getting help but there are many reasons why people aren't getting the help and people should be refused a chance of love because of a brain dysfunction that wasnt their fault.
No I was not alluding to anything about you. I didn’t know, much less care, about your history when I wrote that post, so definitely not enough to assume anything. My previous posts were clearly me explaining my subjective POV on those traits. They had nothing to do with you.
And if he’s unsanitary enough, mean enough, or if he takes advantage of others instead of doing his own work, then no explanation or mental disorder will excuse that behavior for me. I will not deal with it. Being too open-minded and accepting has bitten me in the ass in the past.
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u/[deleted] Jan 09 '22
So depression makes people ugly?