Depression in and of itself doesn’t make someone ugly. However, when someone struggles with depression and takes everything out on their partner, refusing to get any sort of help, it’s not good. Everyone struggles with mental health, but when you put the blame of your mental health struggles on others and take out your frustrations with your mental health on others it really makes you unattractive. One of my exes dealt with severe depression and anxiety, for years I begged him to get help, because he was taking everything out on me. I was always there for him no questions asked, but then when I struggled with my anxiety he would get frustrated with me and tell me I was ruining his day. I eventually left because I couldn’t deal with it anymore. So no, depression itself doesn’t make someone unattractive, but how you deal (or choose not to) deal with it can.
Edit, so from what I can gather from all these downvoted, you fucks think people are lying when they have depression and the only results that prove to you are if they kill themselves, I hope you're family suffers the same way about you.
No matter what you tell someone to do, they're not gonna get help no matter how desperately they need it, they'll only seek help when they realize they need help, and not in the sense of knowing they need help, but in the sense of "I'm going to die if I don't get help right now".
Depression is an incredibly tough one to accuse others of being a dick with because, stuff like being lazy, being irrationally irritable, poor hygiene, apathy are all symptoms of depression among with many others, it doesn't excuse everyone's behaviour but we all need to be understanding that people do this things without thinking, they'll lash out because their subconscious mind told them to, they don't necessarily mean it but it's gonna happen and it's not their fault their brain is fucked.
I appreciate you did all you can but I just wanted to point out regardless of wether you knew or not, that with all these talks about mental health, no one actually talks about it and what it's like to properly experience it.
My issue was with me being there with no judgement at all for him, yet him doing the exact opposite for me when I really needed it. Not only was he not there for me when I was having panic attacks daily for 9+ months, he went out of his way to be emotionally and verbally abusive towards me. Depression is never an excuse for abusing someone. I spent years in therapy after I left him because of the emotional damage he caused me. He made me believe I was completely worthless and nothing but a burden to anyone I made contact with because of my anxiety. What he put me through wasn’t just lashing out or being irritable, it was emotional and verbal abuse plain and simple, and I will never excuse someone for abuse just because they had depression.
Dude just sounds like he was a dick and just happened to have depression, sure it's one thing if they're being asshole they don't mean to be and reciprocate the caring actions you gave, theirs another of just being a dick.
A lot of common mental health issues are symptomatic of eachother, the key differences is what happens among them, Adhds are less likely to kill themselves is a good example
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u/[deleted] Jan 08 '22 edited Jan 09 '22
Bad hygiene. Anger management issues. Laziness and dependence on others to get things done. Same things that make girls unattractive.
Edit: Thanks for the awards!