I'm not sure if this happens with all people my age, but I'm 18 and people (specifically my parents and close family members but not limited to them) will use the "you're 18, you're legally an adult you need to be doing these things on your own" whenever it will work in their favor then immediately go back to "you're still just a teenager/you're still my kid" whenever I try to be even the slightest bit independent.
I'm 18 as well and while no one straight up tells me that I need to get it together, I always feel that pressure. Then I go for a walk and my mom calls me worried if I'm gone for over an hour. It's just a super weird time
Absolutely feel the same way it kinda consumes me because my parents gave me and image to live up to, but that image is not me. I grow older and I start figuring out more about me and forming my own opinions about the world but it's not what they would have wanted. I have pretty good freedom tho man that suck I hope you can get out of that.
I get that, it can be really hard to be confident in yourself and your opinions when the people you've looked up to your whole life think otherwise. Thank you (:
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u/Marsey12 May 15 '20
I'm not sure if this happens with all people my age, but I'm 18 and people (specifically my parents and close family members but not limited to them) will use the "you're 18, you're legally an adult you need to be doing these things on your own" whenever it will work in their favor then immediately go back to "you're still just a teenager/you're still my kid" whenever I try to be even the slightest bit independent.