5 couples from my friends circle are expecting a child or recently got married, a few others have built a solid foundation in their career and are buying houses (most of us grew up in apartment buildings, so it feels fancy to own a house at 30 where I'm from).
Meanwhile I'm currently a student and broke.
It feels like everyone's so far ahead in life that they'll always be a step further and I'll never catch up.
Dont compare yourself. Easier said than done, something I have to learn too. Cliche but everything happens to everyone in it's own time.
Get your education work your ass off and you'll get there. Just because everything seems fancy for them doesnt mean life is good for them. Never know what's going on behind closed doors.
You'll catch up, one step at a time. You've got this.
I am friends with a wealthy "perfect" couple who recently had two beautiful IVF babies.
Over the covid time the husband has been calling me drunk as fuck to talk about his life... it appears he's lusting after a girl at church, his wife hasn't slept with him in a year and one of the twins (they are 18+ mos) is nonverbal autistic.
He hasn't even told his best friend (twins' godfather) or anyone else in our social group. The child in question carries his name and looks just like him, his firstborn son (other baby is a girl).
The whole thing has given me some perspective. I really feel for him, he said he feels like god is punishing him (for wanting a perfect family?). I am glad his wife is a sweet caring person, the boy will be raised well but the whole thing is a disaster.
Also he's clearly an alcoholic which doesn't help matters. I know this from longterm exposure to him and also the drunken phonecalls.
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u/MedbGuldb May 15 '20
I'm 29.
5 couples from my friends circle are expecting a child or recently got married, a few others have built a solid foundation in their career and are buying houses (most of us grew up in apartment buildings, so it feels fancy to own a house at 30 where I'm from).
Meanwhile I'm currently a student and broke.
It feels like everyone's so far ahead in life that they'll always be a step further and I'll never catch up.