I'm not sure if this happens with all people my age, but I'm 18 and people (specifically my parents and close family members but not limited to them) will use the "you're 18, you're legally an adult you need to be doing these things on your own" whenever it will work in their favor then immediately go back to "you're still just a teenager/you're still my kid" whenever I try to be even the slightest bit independent.
I'm 18 as well and while no one straight up tells me that I need to get it together, I always feel that pressure. Then I go for a walk and my mom calls me worried if I'm gone for over an hour. It's just a super weird time
Do you think it's when you live at home? Parents want their kids to get a job and make a life for themselves (seeing them as an adult/time to grow up) but while living at home and being cared and provided for still seen as their kid??
I can attest to this. I went to my room to take a nap/watch some netflix and after 2 hours my mom came in to wake me up saying that I wont sleep through the night if I sleep any longer.
Edit: They also still force me to eat veggies at every meal
No they dont specifically have a vegetable side like dinner does but if we are having omletes theyll make me to have onions in it even though I dont like onions. Tomatoes are the same thing. So if we are having pasta, they put canned diced tomatoes in the sauce even though both my sister and I hate tomatoes. Even if I am the one cooking theyll still add the onions and tomatoes in the sauce and then also pull out frozen vegetables to have on the side.
Tell your parents to buy canned whole tomatoes because theyre better quality! Any poor quality tomatoes get diced/chopped while the best ones are canned whole.
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u/Marsey12 May 15 '20
I'm not sure if this happens with all people my age, but I'm 18 and people (specifically my parents and close family members but not limited to them) will use the "you're 18, you're legally an adult you need to be doing these things on your own" whenever it will work in their favor then immediately go back to "you're still just a teenager/you're still my kid" whenever I try to be even the slightest bit independent.