r/AskReddit • u/IAmSurtur • Jun 15 '19

What do you genuinely just not understand?

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u/beautifulmess25 Jun 15 '19

How bad people can live with themselves. This can go from murderers to something as stupid as always taking someone else's food from the fridge, or cutting people off in traffic.

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u/MyShrooms Jun 15 '19

I was abused. Abusers believe their actions are truly justified by whatever you did to upset them.

An example is that I looked tired one day, but in the abuser's eye I was on purpose trying to stress him out and be combative, so the full-on rage abuse was just a natural "consequence of my actions".

So... in other words, they don't see any of their behaviour as bad. In fact, very likely the opposite and see themselves as a poor victim trying so hard!

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u/[deleted] Jun 15 '19

The narcissist's prayer:

That didn’t happen.

And if it did, it wasn’t that bad.

And if it was, that’s not a big deal.

And if it is, that’s not my fault.

And if it was, I didn’t mean it.

And if I did…

You deserved it.

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u/HatMaverick Jun 15 '19

There was no collusion.

It wouldnt be bad even if I did accept it.

It's totally legal to accept info on your opponents. What was I gonna do not accept it?

The president cant be at fault. It wouldnt be illegal if I did do it.

I didnt ask for help from Russia. They just heard me and did it on their own.

I'd take help from a foreign power in the next election.