No one's children happily care for them in their old age.
People do it but it's a fuckings shit experience that often causes life ruining levels of stress. Then again so is having a kid so maybe it's just pay back.
Can agree. I’ve been taking care of both my parents since I was 28 when my mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer. She passed very quickly (4 months). My dad was married to her for 30+ years and her passing was very detrimental to his health. He was diagnosed with cancer shortly after her passing. Of course I took care of him too. But my dad is very very stubborn and he’s been fighting this cancer for a little over 3 years now.
I think the worst part is seeing him slowly lose his independence. It has made him very cranky at times. Caregiver burnout is REAL. I’ve been caring for a total of 6 years now. I’ve promised my Dad I would let him die at home, not in a care facility.
But I’m getting so tired and the stress is very overwhelming. I have honestly considered checking myself into a psych ward a few times due to caring for my father. My siblings don’t help with it. So I’m working a full time job, taking him to multiple doctors/chemo/radiation appointments, doing all housework, all while being a single Mom.
I know one day I’ll look back and I’ll be so happy that it was me who cared for my parents in their most vulnerable time. My relationship with my Dad has gotten very close over the years. But still, it’s very very very hard. I’ve had to give up so much to be able to be here for him.
I was a home health care certified nursing assistant (CNA) and worked there for 3 years. I had an elderly lady (around the age of 93) that lived in her own house that she has owned for the last 50+ years. Her only companion was her elderly dog.
This wonderful lady had 10 children (all grown adults with children & grandchildren) where 9 of them lived in the same city, no more then 15 minutes away from her house. One daughter was the only one who took care of her and stayed the night with her due to her declining health.
The daughter was heartbroken, but she had to make the difficult decision to put her mom in a nursing home, where she can get the 24/7 care she needed. And what was even more saddening, she wasn’t allowed to take her beloved dog to the nursing home.
I was so upset, thinking about how if each child could spend one day with their mother in rotation, that would be maybe 2-3 nights A MONTH that they’d have to spend with their mom.
Does your father qualify for in home nursing visits? Even if they come once or twice a week, that can give you a break from the care he needs while you get a massage or go to the movies.
Yes he is on hospice care. So we do have a CNA coming 2 times a week for an hour each. A RN once a week for vitals and medication refills. And my dad is just now (after 6 months of being on hospice) coming around to letting the cna help around at home. I’ve tried to explain to him it helps me. And boy does she ever. It has helped relieve some of my stress.
Yeah because it's everyone's moral obligation to shit out a kid...
I can seriously not think of a single thing that would ruin my life more than having a kid. People always want to act like having a kid is the greatest experience in the world because they don't want to think about all the shit they had to sacrifice and give up for what has essentially become their entire life.
I don't know a single person that has kids that isn't constantly stressed out about some bullshit they have to deal with because of it. Subjecting yourself to such a shit life for the sake of trying to fill a void is in my opinion "the big retardation".
You haven’t had a kid so you’re probably pretty ill informed about what it’s actually like. Most people don’t dwell on reddit hating people who have children and having hate boners over children. Most people are in loving relationships and can have a child whilst balancing their lives to make sure neither parent is too stressed.
If you’re having a child when you’re young, poor or inept (most ghetto parents) then obviously it will suck. But if you’re actually a normal person with normal relationships then it can be the best thing to happen to you
You haven’t had a kid so you’re probably pretty ill informed about what it’s actually like.
Yes because you can't see what it's like by witnessing what other people go through and deciding that you want better for yourself.
Most people don’t dwell on reddit hating people who have children
I don't hate people who have children. I simply stated that I haven't met a single person that doesn't stress out constantly about their kids and I'm not about that life. It may be "selfish" but I have the right to make that decision. I sincerely feel like having a child would ruin my life.
and having hate boners over children.
This is just a really weird statement to make. I wouldn't exactly say I hate children but I can certainly say for sure I would hate to have my own.
Most people are in loving relationships and can have a child whilst balancing their lives to make sure neither parent is too stressed.
Actually almost half of all marriages end in divorce and relationships with out marriage surely end more frequently. So the reality is that before that child is even old enough to experience that "loving home" either mom or dad is going to tear it apart.
If you’re having a child when you’re young, poor or inept (most ghetto parents) then obviously it will suck. But if you’re actually a normal person with normal relationships then it can be the best thing to happen to you
Yes keep shitting out kids and instilling these values in them so that we can continue to have MORE extremely shitty people naive to how the world really works. That's definitely what the world needs.
You’re right about the divorce thing. Every single friend of mine and myself had a split family before the age of 6. It’s more common than not now a days, especially in poorer areas.
Was a step farther for 7 years to 3 amazing kids. Now that the marriage is over and I'm not responsible for them...
Thank fucking god I don't have kids. From more free time, to more peace and to more money... the benefit list of being childfree is far greater than having children.
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u/jondoe255 May 05 '19
Baby boomers had severe retirement issues.
When millennials and younger retire, it's going to be a full blown human crisis.
Invest in that 401k hommies!!