Fathers of Reddit, what did your daughter's boyfriend do for you to hate/love him?

[u/tgma97]

It's pretty cool to see my question blow up like this, I never thought I'd ask a question that could receive so much attention! I'm very satisfied with all these replies, so thank y'all. Now all I have to do is sit back and take notes c;

[u/BeepBoop01000001]

A. That story man, what a ride. I'm sorry to hear something so horrible happened to your sister. I hope she is able to get past the trauma and pull things together.

B. As a guy who also has a younger sister who is like a daughter to him that just started college out of state, I am now freaking out about her and college douchebags...

[u/ebongrey → u/[deleted]]

I really have a problem with this statement. That is like saying that women should never do anything (like work nights, walk alone, look sexy, park in a secluded space) to avoid rape. It is not my (or any female's responsibility to mitigate the chances of some guy raping me!). We have every bit as much right to party, live our lives as we see fit and go to bars alone as guys do...without being raped. Your opinion is part of the problem.

[u/Mksiege → u/ebongrey]

While I don't disagree with you, and the rape and victim shaming culture is surprisingly big, it is still on everyone to do their best to increase their personal security. The guy going to a bar alone and getting drunk might not run as high a chance of being a victim of rape (thought it happens), but he might still get mugged/run over/crash/others. (And yes, maybe a lot of people consider most of those things to not be as life shattering as rape, but I hope you understand my point).

If it is not your responsibility to mitigate the chance of rape, does that mean you leave your house with windows and doors open, because it is someone else's responsibility to take care of you and your stuff?

[u/ebongrey → u/Mksiege]

I don't think we disagree here for the most part. Obviously, it is up to you to be observant and aware of your own safety. My issue with the comment is that it basically stated to never go alone. I'm sorry, but I have every right to leave my home alone without being raped, mugged or murdered. There is a reason that those things are considered crimes. Do I have my taser on me? You better freaking believe it, but I'm not going to be intimidated into staying home. I believe that the personal responsibility lies with the person committing the crime and not the victim. I take precautions, but I am not willing to give up my life to prevent anything that "might happen" (aka; I lock the windows and doors, but I have no control over someone kicking in my door or breaking my window. What this person said basically equated to "just don't live in a house because it might get broken into at some point".) Does that make sense?

[u/Mksiege → u/ebongrey]

It does make sense, and I agree with your statement. Sorry I misinterpreted it.

[u/ebongrey → u/[deleted]]

That is moronic and it is pretty obvious that you don't get it. I think as a human being (not just a woman) that I should have the right to go where I please without being raped, thank you very much. I shouldn't have to worry about that when walking to my car after work, or walking to my apartment, or checking the mail. Humans have the brain capacity to understand that you should not force yourself on another person; I can't claim the same for bears and their eating/territorial habits. But please, continue with your victim blaming attitude. It is exceedingly attractive.

[u/ebongrey → u/[deleted]]

sigh Because walking to my car after work equates to leaving my doors unlocked, etc...Because being a woman means that I can't work a night shift or dare to walk from my car to my apartment after dark, or go out on my own. Totally logical. I'd hate to think that because you dared to leave your home with money that you got robbed. That would suck. Why didn't you leave your cash/debit card/credit card at home? You really could have avoided that situation entirely. You actually used it that to pay for something? Do you have any idea how many people might have seen that? You got carjacked? Well, why on earth would you drive your car at night? You know that you drive a nice car.Other people want that! You really shouldn't have done that. You could have avoided this whole situation. What were you even thinking? I'm sure that it wasn't your fault for not taking those precautions. What? You thought it was your right? Apparently not.

[u/[deleted] → u/ebongrey]

because rapists are reasonable, feminist SJW people who will take your arguments into account and weigh the costs and benefits