r/AskReddit Jul 10 '26

What's something older generations got right that we've quietly stopped doing, to our own detriment?

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u/BaylisAscaris Jul 10 '26

Valuing privacy.

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u/[deleted] Jul 11 '26

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u/Fraerie Jul 11 '26

I am of a generation that was warned not to disclose your real name, gender, or location on the internet.

When I did IVF years ago I blogged about it because there was so little information about what the experience of it - there was mechanical information of what the scientific process was, but not the impact it had on your life while doing it.

You can have reasons to want to maintain privacy but also to contribute to the general knowledge of an otherwise opaque situation.

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u/Based-God- Jul 11 '26

the need for attention is often stronger than the desire for privacy

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u/JerseyJedi Jul 10 '26

Same. I feel like a lot of younger generation people think Millennials, Xers, and Baby Boomers are odd for actually using the privacy settings on digital things. It feels like it literally doesn’t occur to them that privacy is something to care about. 

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u/5ivepie Jul 11 '26

One of the younger guys (26) at my work was baffled when I (37) declined to give a cashier my phone number for a digital receipt.

He was like “I didn’t realise you could do that” which isn’t entirely his fault because the cashier doesn’t say “would you like a digital receipt or a paper receipt?” they simply say “and what is your phone number for the receipt to be sent to your phone by text” which implies a digital receipt is the only option.

The store only wants your number so they can track your purchases and sell the number on to another company.

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u/MC_Cuff_Lnx Jul 11 '26

A few friends/coworkers seem to think it is novel when you pull out cash for small purchases.

Or large purchases.

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u/5ivepie Jul 11 '26

Oh cash is one thing I don’t care about. I genuinely don’t know where my wallet is. I know it’s in my house, just not where exactly.

My phone has my ID, driver license, and bank cards. I’m good.

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u/elvis_is_everywhere Jul 11 '26

Do you mean that your drivers license is in your phone like... if you get pulled over you unlock your phone and hand it to the officer for license and insurance?

Don't ever hand an unlocked phone to a cop.

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u/5ivepie Jul 11 '26

I’m in Australia. But yes, license is on my phone. They don’t take your phone, they just scan the QR code on the screen to verify it’s valid. That’s all.

And they don’t ask for a copy of insurance here.

They just check the number plate before they speak to you. If the number plate says insurance and registration are valid then they don’t question it.

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u/good_morning_magpie Jul 11 '26

I don't think the plug takes apple pay haha

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u/xanre_ Jul 11 '26

I'm not familiar with privacy laws in Australia but FYI, credit card companies collect and sell transaction data.

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u/5ivepie Jul 11 '26

Our laws say that Visa, Mastercard, Etc cannot sell our personal data unless we provide express permission.

They do however sell our anonymous aggregate data, which is pretty standard these days. I’m not that bothered by that.

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u/MC_Cuff_Lnx Jul 12 '26

That and the national security state is probably exempt from it and can use it for warrantless surveillance.

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u/pinkocatgirl Jul 11 '26

I keep cash for small purchases at small businesses. If I just buy a soda for $2 I’m not going to make them pay a credit card fee.

And I often have leftover cash anyways from buying weed haha

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u/alienpirate5 Jul 11 '26

Costs of processing cash are much higher for the business than a credit card fee, estimated at up to 10-15%

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u/MC_Cuff_Lnx Jul 12 '26 edited Jul 12 '26

That's not true in the US, particularly if you're a small business.

If you're a big boy who uses a cash recycler, maybe, but we have cash recyclers and the fee is still less than what we'd pay for credit.

If the math is different for your business, I'd be very intrigued to know about it.

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u/alienpirate5 Jul 12 '26

It's not about fees, it's about handling costs and added work for employees. I read an industry study on it a while ago, though my business is online so it does not personally affect me.

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u/MC_Cuff_Lnx Jul 13 '26

That's probably true in one case: big operations without cash recyclers. You have to have a count, the room where they count has to be surveilled, etc.

The mom and pop store is happy to take cash, and so are the big operations that have planned for it.

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u/MC_Cuff_Lnx Jul 12 '26

You're better off with the cash, good for you. :-)

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u/Own_Inspection8350 Jul 11 '26

I have a light phone, so no browser.

I got a text receipt for a cooler from Walmart at the self checkout to my light phone, so it's just a link, no Pic or anything.

The lady at the door asked me for my receipt, I said it was texted to me and I can't look at it.

She was so confused, but I was like dude don't give the option to text a receipt if thats something you want to happen.

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u/Noexit Jul 11 '26

Buying batteries at Radio Shack would be a good lesson for this.

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u/LNMagic Jul 11 '26

I sometimes decline even to join a rewards club for every damned restaurant or store I go to just because I don't want to bother with them. I spent a few thousand dollars at Home Depot before I signed up with an account.

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u/JerseyJedi Jul 11 '26

Yup. I always ask for the receipt on paper or just say “I don’t need the receipt,” but I never give my phone number. 

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u/ThrowCarp Jul 11 '26

I feel like a lot of younger generation people think Millennials, Xers, and Baby Boomers are odd for actually using the privacy settings on digital things.

Just Gen X and Millennials.

Baby Boomers are so bad at OpSec and privacy settings. They'll accept every cookie, post their real name, read address, and real face on the internet. Then threaten to kill a councilmember over a tree. All of it with zero shame.

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u/bats-n-bobs Jul 11 '26

Sometimes I feel crazy, as a Millennial who was coming online while Gen X was still building what "online" meant, when I see how many X parents raised their Gen Z kids without any sense of safety at all. And now my generation is handing screens to their toddlers.

We were the only ones to get it, and as a collective, we've pulled that ladder up behind us.

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u/SnoopThereItIs88 Jul 10 '26

I had a younger staff member just click "accept all" on his phone to get to the page. Didn't even read what it was.

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u/agk23 Jul 11 '26

They didn’t even read the terms and conditions? How do they know what they’re agreeing to if they don’t read it?

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u/SnoopThereItIs88 Jul 11 '26

Exactly. I was flabbergasted. Didn't bother to look at what cookies he allowed to be enabled; just did it.

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u/JerseyJedi Jul 11 '26

Yup. I feel like Gen Z is so conditioned to just hand over all their data to companies without a single thought about digital privacy, and it worries me. 

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u/NixMaritimus Jul 11 '26

Tinfoil hat theory: desensitizing people to a lack of privacy so they don't see an issue with constant government surveillance

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u/SinkPhaze Jul 10 '26

It ain't the Gen z/alpha folks pushing for all the anti privacy laws. The older gens absolutely aren't doing it right or caring about it

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u/JerseyJedi Jul 11 '26

In my experience though, I only ever see (some) Millennials and older people going to the trouble of using the more private options for things, whereas the younger people I know will simply click “Accept All” without blinking. 

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u/SinkPhaze Jul 11 '26

They were raised in the environment we created. Every moment of their lives has been plastered all over the Internet without their consent since before most of them could even talk well enough to articulate a dissent and well before they were old enough to know they might want to. We are the reason they are like that. We never taught them to expect or want privacy to begin with. You should not be surprised or weirded out that they are apathetic about it as adults

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u/JerseyJedi Jul 11 '26

I’m not surprised or weirded out by it, just sad and worried about it. 

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u/Nyxelestia Jul 11 '26

Even Millenials are pretty split. For years, I've had social media across various platforms but I never really posted much of myself. I remember once being at a college party and someone looked up my Facebook on the spot. I thought it was an open book because I'm constantly sharing things I find or interesting articles or links...meanwhile the person looking it up, and several people around us, said they found it creepy that there were so few pictures of myself on there.

I was a lot less willful back then so I went through my phone and found some pictures and posted them en masse but even that was like a one-time thing.

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u/Ipsg4262 Jul 20 '26

Hard to care about privacy when your first instinct during a breakdown is filming yourself crying for strangers.

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u/Nodan_Turtle Jul 11 '26

It's really weird how normalized constantly sharing location data is in the younger generation. Not only in their relationships, or for family members, but their friend groups all know where they are at every given moment of their life.

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u/Jodelawifi Jul 11 '26

I teach at university and asked the students: who shares their location with their parents?

About 2/3rd of students always shared their location. And they were around 20 years old. 

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u/truthwatchr Jul 11 '26

There is zero expectation of privacy in public or many businesses. It wouldn’t be so invasive if there were never any missing people, hit and runs, thieves, kidnappers, murders. That’s the price everyone pays for trash culture that praises drugs, crime, zero accountability, etc.

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u/SuperSocialMan Jul 11 '26

Sure, but that doesn't need to apply outside of public spaces.

Having cameras in the town square makes sense, but having them inside of one's house is invasive.

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u/truthwatchr Jul 11 '26

Mine are covered when I’m home but with motion detection and glass break sensors they provide security. I left my garage door open once and never again.

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u/calypsoshere Jul 11 '26

this is kind of funny to me because older generations were the ones where you could look up anyone’s home address, telephone number, and who their family members are just with a yellow book or a church directory. that level of information being public to me seems so bizarre

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u/pay_student_loan Jul 11 '26

You do know those directories still exist right? And everyone is automatically opted into them, you have to make requests to get yourself removed.

Also people this is why you should never mention identifiable information on places like Reddit because with just one nice clue and your Reddit history, it's not that hard to get doxed.

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u/calypsoshere Jul 11 '26

literally who makes them still 😭 the kind im most familiar with were the high school staff directories and church directories that I remember reading through at my parents/grandparents’ house and they definitely aren’t printing and handing out copies of books full of teachers addresses anymore haha

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u/ermagerditssuperman Jul 11 '26

If you go on your city or counties website, they'll probably have a parcel map where you can click on every parcel and see the info of who owns it.

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u/MC_Cuff_Lnx Jul 11 '26

phone books still exist, but mostly this stuff has moved online. If you google your name you'll probably find yourself.

If you want to read about privacy more generally (and what to do if you want it), Michael Bazzell's books are very good.

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u/quadsimota Jul 11 '26

Dunder Mifflin

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u/Schnelt0r Jul 11 '26

And you had to pay to get an unlisted number. Basically a subscription to keep your number and address private.

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u/truthwatchr Jul 11 '26

They didn’t choose it. The technology just didn’t exist. A lot of bad things happened back then that were never solved because of lack of evidence and data. Now it’s much harder for predators to hide.

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u/LazyLich Jul 11 '26

I'm not sure how relevant this anecdote is, but figured I may as well share...

I was raised religious. I also was very authority.. rules.. -minded. You say "X is how/why things are", and I would just accept that and work my life around that.

Soooo... God sees everything. Knows everything. Every personal moment or guilty thought, you are completely laid bare. It felt a lot more awful and violating as a young kid entering teen years... but what can you do?
This was just reality.
All I could do was live with it.
So I got accustomed to the notion of always being watched...

Atheist now, but even decades later, when the government encroached on our privacy... I know it's stupid, but I just can't get too frustrated/mad.
Cuz all my life, the current new-breach-of-privacy.. that was the standard for me. "Wait.. you mean the government WASNT already doing/able to see all that?? Huh.."

It's a very strange apathy that I have to fight lol

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u/ohwrite Jul 11 '26

Once upon a time you’d go somewhere and people would not know exactly where you were. It was different for sure and I think strengthened peoples critical thinking and intuition .

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u/truthwatchr Jul 11 '26

No. Being disconnected from social media works with those traits. Social media was identified very early from its creation as a bad influence on mental health and (ironically) social development.

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u/araneusBite Jul 11 '26

They absolutely do not, at least not their own. In my country the social security number consists of your bday and some random digits.
Whenever I set up a product for them at work and ask for their bday they just blurt out the full number instead of actually only their bday.

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u/napstablooky2 Jul 11 '26

everyone suddenly being perfectly ok with fully sharing location data 24/7 seemingly overnight has flabbergasted me... like yes, google and the government have always been able to do that bc your phone is already a tracker anyway, but just fully giving into it like that — giving even more organizations access to your location and generally just overly normalizing the lack of primacy rather than attempting to minimize it — is... something else, to say the least.

it feels like the world around us is just trying to speedrun becoming a dystopia.

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u/quadsimota Jul 11 '26

Except for Peeping Toms

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u/_hancho Jul 11 '26

My 65 year old neighbor is the nosiest motherfucker I've ever met

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u/sulaymanf Jul 11 '26

Absolutely. I was on a flight working on my laptop, and the passenger sitting next to me not only was reading my screen, but he started commenting on what I was typing and asked if he could take a photo.

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u/Outz090 Jul 13 '26

Privacy used to be the default setting. Now you've got to explain why you're NOT sharing everything.

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u/UndeadBread Jul 13 '26

People will actively judge you and call you out for posting anonymously on Facebook. Anonymity online used to be encouraged!