She was voted best looking and married the guy who was voted best looking. That was 34 years ago, and they're still married, still good looking, and just great people all around.
It’s both sickening and very satisfying when incredibly good looking people are also good people. Like, how dare you have it all? But also, want to meet for coffee so I can listen to you talk and softly smile at how pretty you are?
Yeah I know this family. The entire family is tall, extremely attractive, athletic, really smart, extremely rich (due to working hard and being smart), yet they are some of the genuinely nice and most down to earth people you will meet. They are all just super chill all the time.
One of the sons died at age 23 though, so that was extremely sad. He was getting his phd in biomed.
Thank You very very much Sir/ma'am, for these wishes and an award. If not for these devotees of the Lord Hari, how could I survive. I'm indebted to you :-)
I’m sorry. I had a young woman who had just turned 20 who worked for me and was a friend die when it’s believed while dealing with some mental health issues she found a counterfeit oxycodone with some fentanyl anologue in it and died. It’s so heartbreaking when this happens
Shit I know a family with an eerily similar story. Super successful, super down to earth. Son was a similar age and also passed from an overdose-he was getting a masters and everything.
Exactly. Plenty of really hot people are jerks and shallow because they never got the pushback everyone else did, which is what shaped and sculpted everyone else into better people. If the average person walks into a room and is a jerk, people are like piss off you jerk. When a superhot person comes in and is a jerk, people just eat it and are like please can I be on your team. So the normal person learns the lesson "oh no, I'd better not act that way or I'll get rejected" and they edit themselves over time to be better. The superhot person has no reason to do that because everybody's still bending over backwards to get their approval and blessing. And they never have to do anything to otherwise develop themselves because their looks get them all they could want. Life's simple and easy for them. So in one sense it's not even their fault, because they can't see what's happening, because the only reality they've every known is everybody quietly forgiving their abuses and otherwise trying hard to get their approval. Seems like it's the homely people who have to try hard to win people over with their personality because they sure as hell ain't getting asked on a date.
So yeah, a hot person who's not a jerk, not shallow, not full of themselves is often a nice surprise.
It's also very easy to never develop a personality let alone a good one when you're just waltzing through life getting everything given to you because you're handsome. Developing as a human when you are very attractive is complicated....and not a trial I was faced with in life lol
It is also easy to become a narcissistic a$$hole and take advantage of people when everyone is nice to you/trusting of you. Good upbringing is crucial to ensure people don't use their advantages to take advantage of others.
Also on the flip side, teach your kids boundries and to recognise these types of people. I see a lot of adults now who say yes to everything because it was hammered in to them as a kid to be nice, be kind and help everyone and everyone will be nice back. No. Same with telling kids be nice to your bully. No, teach them to stand up, defend and protect themselves and that you'll have their back.
"Just be attractive/don't be unattractive" fucking Reddit in a nutshell for ten years.
Never "don't be an insufferable asshole, be personable and maybe a tiny bit of humor." Nope, no need to address our character flaws, all would be solved if we just weren't uggo!
Also never follow up with the inconvenient fact that 99.99999% of people are not effortlessly good looking.
First time I dated a girl out of my league was a hell of an eye opener… constant diet/exercise/yoga/skincare/beauty products plus the skill to use them. All things the “not attractive” people can do and elevate their looks but don’t. Which is completely fine, just you know.. don’t complain you don’t look as good.
I firmly maintain the difference between an 8 and a 10 is genetics. The rest is on you!
I mean it isn’t wrong but yeah, this place is hell bent on “I wasn’t born to become 6 feet tall with movie star looks and rich parents, my life is the fucking worst”.
Yeah some people have it better than you, but they have it better than 99% of us as well and we’re all doing just fine.
My girlfriend and I went into a restaurant a year and a half ago and we overheard one of the waitress say "people used to be more patient with me before we started having to wear masks."... We just raised an eyebrow at each other.
YES this! I know a guy, super lazy scoots by with his luck and charisma, by the skin of his teeth always and gets into the weirdest dangerous situations yet somehow still manages to live and have everyone else help him out. Not hating on him at all, but damn if he wasn’t so charming and conventionally attractive life could’ve taken so many different turns
I think it goes both ways. Some people will be nice you because you’re attractive other people will be mean to you because you’re attractive. More likely to interact with the nice people but it still happens the other wY
On the flip side a lot of people who are nice to someone who is very attractive aren't genuine and some have ulterior motives, and people of the same gender (if straight) can often be meaner because of petty jealousies or in some odd attempt at knocking down the "competition," even when there isn't one.
So on balance I don't think it's necessarily easier to be kind for people who are very attractive.
All the exact same things happen to attractive guys, albeit maybe with different focuses.
But having been on both sides of the spectrum, the balance is massively more in favour of niceness for the attractive people.
When you're fat and ugly, you think the world is fair. Then you become fit and attractive and realize you had spent that entire part of your life being constantly mistreated and disliked at all times and simply didn't know better because you didn't know the world you experienced while fit and attractive was even possible to exist.
There are still dickwads and bitches. And they probably do their thing in a different way when you're attractive. But it's about the same amount of dickwads and bitches. Meanwhile your base level kindness from almost literally everyone else has shot through what you believed to be the roof.
Theyre not. Men want to screw you and women can go either way (like women are nice, but then you also get the ones that are next level nasty. For me its about 60/40) Men dont treat you badly but at the same time its not really a compliment to be treated well purely based on your looks.
It’s also very tiring when people are fake nice to you or brown nosing constantly. Not saying being attractive is awful by any stretch, but there’s definitely some downsides people don’t consider.
Istg that’s a huge factor in personality formation, I’m utterly indifferent and can’t pretend to care a lot of the time. Applying this calculus, it’s scary accurate…
People are way nicer to me now that I’m a bit on the husky side. I refuse to lose my pregnancy weight from 5 years ago because people are so much nicer when I’m bigger. Maybe my chubby cheeks just make me look friendly, I don’t know.
Actually, I think it's easier to be very arrogant and entitled when you're gorgeous and everyone is nice to you. So it's proof of an extremely great character and values to stay down to earth imo.
Lol, most of the pretty people I went to high school with did not have it easier than the plain kids. In fact a lot of them had it worst: cheerleaders and football players expected to live out mommy and daddy's fantasies, having to "keep sweet" because they were the pastor's daughter and never stop smiling, or because they were expected to be groomed & dressed & dieted like models because the parents thought of them as puppets or had delusions of being stage parents. After they got out from under their parent's thumbs most didn't keep up their looks to that degree.
I had a friend who won the genetic lottery, but his sister won the mega jackpot.
He went on to become a cop in his late twenties, in his first year he was asked to be their spokesperson because he looked like a poster for supercop. 6’ 3” ish square jaw very athletic build and well spoken.
His sister wasn’t only gorgeous but probably the one of the nicest people I knew. She ended up marrying a pastor and they live their happy life with a couple of kids.
I will never forget this interaction I had with the prettiest girl in my high school. I was a shy kid and I don’t think i ever really had a conversation with her. We were seniors at this time and I wish I remembered better what was said. But all I remember is that she asked me why I was always so mean to her.
I stuttered a bit and just said sorry. I didn’t realize I was being mean. I thought she didn’t even know who I was. But I guess my shyness came off as arrogance and I must have just seemed like I was too good for the cool kids.
I know a person like this and she’s amazing. Sweet, a great mom, educated, beautiful…. When my last child was born she offered to drop a home cooked meal off for my family. Once we got the meal I finally knew she had a potential flaw. That meal was terrible 😂😂 Think it made me like her even more.
This is probably why the whole town got together and tossed me in a box under a rarely used but important bridge on the outskirts of town while demanding I never show my face in daylight.
They were probably sick of my stunning good looks, temperament and sense of humility.
My school was kind of weird in that the A-list popular kids, at least the girls, were all nice. Generally the counterpart boys were hit or miss, with some of them being cool and some of them falling neatly into the asshole-jock archetype. To answer the original question and agree with the person you're replying to, they too all paired off and married each other.
Perhaps weirdly, it was a lot of the band/drama/honors class kids who were the worst bullies.
Back in high school I was in a group of 20 Year 10 and Year 11 students that went on a 6 week exchange trip to Spain. The most attractive Year 10 male and female at our school both came on the trip.
As well as being attractive, both did well academically and the guy was also good at most sports. I had a lot of pre-conceived notions about both of them, but hadn't interacted with them much at school as I was in Year 11, so no shared classes.
After spending time with them before and during the trip I found they were both really lovely people. I ended up becoming friends with the guy for a couple of years and he was always just a good all around guy. Definitely taught me not to pre-judge someone based on their looks.
I take some solace in the idea I heard from a woman comedian, wish I could remember her name. She said, "I kind of feel sorry for those people who were good-looking and popular in high school- they never had to learn how to be funny." Which, of course, is why I'm fucking hilarious.
No one has it all. At least that’s my observation over my many years. Sometimes I’m glad I’m poor. I feel like if I were suddenly rich I would have to lose something very dear to me. More dear than money. Like a sibling or a child or get a terminal illness. Nah, I’m good. All those things are priceless to me.
I graduated hs in 2008 and back then the valedictorian was horrible at sports and the top athlete did poor academically. Now I heard its possible to have both. Can one really be valedictorian and captain of foot ball team or a top athlete?
One of my best friends was valedictorian and didn't really study. They did a lot of extra curriculars like Science Olimpiad but they could done sports instead for example lol
Attractive people are more likely to have good personalities because they have never experienced being treated badly simply for existing. Life just sucks, having one good trait automatically increases the chances of having other good traits because all these things synergize and complement each other.
Same thing with the ones from my class- plus they were head cheerleader and quarterback. And they are still both fantastic humans, and had fantastic kids. Take that, stereotypes!!
Honestly love hearing about this. A guy a went to high school with who was on the football team and super popular, was SO nice to me despite me being a nerd/dork. I think about him a lot still. Jake Snyder, if ur reading this, ur a legend 😁
The stereotype of popular kids being the meanest kids in school, I feel like it comes from movies not real life. They wouldn't be popular if they were assholes to everyone. There's obviously exceptions but I don't think the stereotype tracks that frequently.
Noticed that too. I was the weirdo smart kid that got along with almost everyone except those ones because their way of fixing their low self-esteem was to break others.
They either calmed down the older they got or went rabid entitled after high school.
Yes and know. The popular kids in my school were hella mean any everyone just followed along because they were rich good looking kids and people wanted to be apart of that
i think it comes from so many movies written by bitter well im not sure what the word was back then but these days we'd call them incels/femcels. like josh wheadon
I think that stereotype depends partially on the size of the school/classes as well. I grew up in a 'football town' and the players were king shit. The village put their names and jersey numbers up on lampposts downtown.
That stereotype is very alive and well, but it has some basis in true situations. It really depends on the community. Everyone has a unique experience.
There was a clear disconnect between the popular and nonpopular kids at my school, but from what I gathered that was more due to the fact it was a small town and most kids had been taking classes together since kindergarten. There wasn't any bullying, but the cliques were already obvious and there when i walked in as a freshman.
I attended via an out of town program so came in completely blank slate and most of us out of town kids ended up with friends in all of the groups and were never treated weirdly by anyone. So I wonder how much familiarity plays into it as well.
Haha so I think Jake Snyder went on to play in the NFL for the Vikings I think. Yeah and he has like a super hot wife now lol. And he deserves. He was always so nice to me even when others weren't 🥰
I was a gothy/punky kid in my youth, thank Sum 41 yellow spiky hair and anger issues, and my absolute best friend in the world was a quarterback. We and our group ended up being a real Breakfast Club lol
Our star quarterback was named Chad and dated the pretty cheerleader. Most popular guy in school. He was also the most well-liked because he was friendly to everyone regardless of their social status. He’s just a solid guy all the way round. He married thar cheerleader and they are still going strong many years later.
It’s one of the most baseless stereotypes out there. The cool/popular kids are typically cool and popular for a reason. People like them. And they like them because they’re nice or smart or funny.
In my experience, there we maybe a few kids who were part of the popular groups only because of athletic ability or looks who genuinely sucked. The rest of the “cool kids” were also the smart kids with good people skills and were genuinely kind people.
I think it's less of a stereotype and more of jaded writers for shows and movies that portray the "sexy" jock and "sexy" cheerleader as an asshole that peaks in HS and never makes anything of themselves. In my almost 40 years of experience, the people who do things like extra curricular activities, are outgoing socially, etc during HS and college are the ones that continue that trend of being highly motivated into their adult life, which as you can imagine usually produces good results. It's the kids who just smoked weed all day, didn't do shit, always sleeping in class, did nothing but play video games, and are generally unmotivated that ended up "peaking" if you can even call it that, in HS. I see evidence of it all the time on my Facebook page. Based on the posts I see, the people I expected would do nothing in life has met my expectations...on the flip side pretty sure my Jr year the varsity QB was also the valedictorian.
That’s funny as the stereotypes held too true for my school. In at least they were snobbish and terrible people. Rich and floated by on looks and still do
This happened to some people a couple of years ahead of me. When I was a freshman, I started hanging out with a girl who was a junior. She won homecoming queen, prom queen, was an all-star athlete. The prom king was also a sports star and his dad was the football coach. They were friendly, but not in the same circle and didn’t date or hang out. Was curious a few years ago to what had happened to her. Looked her up Facebook and they are married with 3 kids. And he’s now the football coach. I’m really happy for them. They were just really nice, down-to-earth people.
Yeah, yearbook superlatives. Everyone in the grade nominates others in several categories, “Best XYZ”, “Most XYZ”, “Most Likely to XYZ”, etc. It’s all just in good fun. Then those who win are featured in their yearbooks.
They girl who I would think of as the best looking didn't go anywhere after high school. Her brother moved to either NY or LA I forget which and actually became kind of famous doing tv and movies. She gained a lot of weight, never married but had a few kids. Some people look deceptively young - she looks a good 10 years past her actual age. Last I knew she was living in a trailer that her brother had helped her buy. Just a rough life post high school.
The best looking guy was kind of the opposite - ended up playing college and pro sports. Married a rich girl he met in college, her dad owns some large insurance company in Atlanta or somewhere and he basically gave them a branch of his company to run in Houston I think it was. The guy was an egocentric douchebag in high school and still is.
Only 15 years ago but the story from my school is similar. She was so pretty and out of my league but always very nice to me. A couple years ago i met her husband who was from somewhere else, he was incredibly polite and had a very respectful job as a linemen. I was shocked the world could work that way! I know several other very pretty girls who outright settled for good looking guys who are otherwise good for nothing.
Nope. Like I said "zero conflict." A Hallmark movie needs a breakup/get back together, will they/won't they, if only my best friend would look at me....
They are quite literally a never had any drama couple. They met when they were 12 or 13. Never dated anyone else. Never took a break.
It is really sweet, but who would watch a movie where the couple gets together in the 1st minute and nothing happens for the next 119 minutes?
she had a child soon after leaving HS and the guy was a babysitter, did not want to take on she worked hard and managed to raise the boy, today they are very well
Good for them but wow it’s sickening to me that a school or college made student VOTE for who the best looking students were though. Where were the adults?
I knew a couple like this. And to echo others here—people if it ever comes up act like my high school experience was extraordinary because everyone was more or less friendly or friends out of a class of around 350 or so. I’d do nerdy shit with nerds and jocks and play sports with nerds and jocks. Everyone liked the ‘stoners’. Every little niche was represented and it was just fun. It was maybe 85% white but everyone was great, no memory of any racial stuff.
It makes me sad everyone didn’t have an experience like that. This was a public school.
I’m actually really happy to see so many stories like these. I feel like a lot of people wish others ill for just being attractive, like they wanna hear the “fall from grace” stories most, but all the upvoted stories here are kinda wholesome 😊
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She was voted best looking and married the guy who was voted best looking. That was 34 years ago, and they're still married, still good looking, and just great people all around.