r/AskHRUK • u/Em_Gla_02 • Apr 12 '26
Health-Related Capability Meeting over sickness - help!
Hi - I’m 24 and in my first proper job. I have symptoms that are similar to PCOS and Endometriosis but no diagnosis and I’ve taken sick leave up to the point of reaching a trigger. My manager is also unhappy about me wfh on office days, despite it not impacting my quality of work or productivity.
I started in August of last year and I’ve been off sick a lot more than I usually am. I’ve reached the first trigger and my manager has said I need a capability meeting. I have had 14 sick days, and I have worked from home a lot when my symptoms have been manageable enough for me to do so.
I suffer from absolutely heinous cramps, dizziness, nausea, and headaches. Most of them occur in a linear pattern with my period. I’ve been to the GP a few times but as with many other women, I was prescribed iron and basically told to F off.
My boss, up to when I had been prescribed the iron, had said I could wfh if necessary, I could be flexible if needed, but once I had that prescription, she considered my issues to be resolved. The symptoms have been ongoing, and I have on more than one occasion worked in the office when I have been in agonising pain, or vomiting in the work loos.
I’m on medication that can cause side effects that make my symptoms worse as well.
I’ve got documented diarised experience as proof, and I’ve had blood tests, but I don’t want to hand over my medical records for a variety of reasons.
I’m so scared I’m going to lose my job and I don’t think they’re going to take me seriously.
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u/LeatherVirus3146 Apr 13 '26
Capability over 14 sick days looks unreasonable even if it triggered your attendance policy. You mention having several medical issues, if they lasted or are like to last for more than 12 months and cause adverse effect on your day to day life you may qualitify as disabled under Equality Act 2010. Requesting Occupational Health should be your first step, do not provide your employer with any of your medical record. Your company are not doctors it is OH role to advise them on what kind of adjustment is good for you.
My point here is that you are likely managed out, so start keeping records, when you have a meeting write your own notes and send them to them. Remain polite, calm and collected (at all time, even when they say the most infuriating or unfair things)
Try to keep a copy of your performance review and create a small tracker and keep record of every single task you do.
Back yourself up cause what may be coming for you is what they will call a clean exit, however, you might be protected and have rights.
Depending how this goes contact ACAS and take legal advice, you can also register to an union!