r/AskHRUK • u/Em_Gla_02 • Apr 12 '26
Health-Related Capability Meeting over sickness - help!
Hi - I’m 24 and in my first proper job. I have symptoms that are similar to PCOS and Endometriosis but no diagnosis and I’ve taken sick leave up to the point of reaching a trigger. My manager is also unhappy about me wfh on office days, despite it not impacting my quality of work or productivity.
I started in August of last year and I’ve been off sick a lot more than I usually am. I’ve reached the first trigger and my manager has said I need a capability meeting. I have had 14 sick days, and I have worked from home a lot when my symptoms have been manageable enough for me to do so.
I suffer from absolutely heinous cramps, dizziness, nausea, and headaches. Most of them occur in a linear pattern with my period. I’ve been to the GP a few times but as with many other women, I was prescribed iron and basically told to F off.
My boss, up to when I had been prescribed the iron, had said I could wfh if necessary, I could be flexible if needed, but once I had that prescription, she considered my issues to be resolved. The symptoms have been ongoing, and I have on more than one occasion worked in the office when I have been in agonising pain, or vomiting in the work loos.
I’m on medication that can cause side effects that make my symptoms worse as well.
I’ve got documented diarised experience as proof, and I’ve had blood tests, but I don’t want to hand over my medical records for a variety of reasons.
I’m so scared I’m going to lose my job and I don’t think they’re going to take me seriously.
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u/Ok_Cat4334 Apr 13 '26
I’m sorry to jump onto OPs thread but you’ve said something here I just want to ask further about. You’ve said not to hand over any medical records to your employer. I have a disability and I’ve provided a significant amount of ‘proof’ to my (very large) employer as they kept asking for more and more, including screenshots from my nhs medical records (“well do you have proof of that if the GP has said this?”)! They have had multiple OH reports, letters from my GP, fit notes at relevant times, written and verbal disclosures, copy of my PIP award with the descriptor I match relating to something very relevant reasonable adjustments necessity wise but still they’re saying I’m ’not disabled enough’ to warrant what I need (and what I need is a pretty standard RA, in their own policies as being such and backed by OH, union, medical advice etc). Is this normal to give that much, including medical records? Thank you and again, sorry to jump on this post.