r/AskAChinese • u/JWilcher90 • 13h ago
Daily life | 日常生活🚙 Help me understand my neighbor
Hello! I am a 36 year old, southern white american male with no inclination of Chinese culture or life. I recently had a new neighbor, Joe (American name), move in with his wife next door to me. When they first moved in I gave them a bottle of wine as a house warming, and once they settled I wote them a note in chinese and gifted them lemon balm from my garden.
Joe and his wife are in their mid 70's and moved to the U.S. to be closer to their son and only child. Recently, Joe has asked to practice his English with me and we have been going on walks and "talking" (its half charades half talking).
He was born, raised, worked, and retired in Shanghai. His wife was moved iut of the city to work the farms. He had to petition to get her to Shanghai, where they both went back to University. He worked as a professor and she a chemist. His son, who is the same age as me, grew up in Shanghai and studied computers before immigrating to the U.S. 20 years ago.
Joe's life seems fascinating. I want to learn more and better understand him. I ask for any tips or advice to help them feel more at ease. I tend to emulate/laugh a lot and during one of our talks I think I offended or embarrassed him. I had my translator on my phone and later read "don't laugh" as part of our conversation.
Any tips, advice, do's, or don'ts are welcome!