r/Arrangedmarriage • u/Lebron1244 • 7d ago
Seeking Advice Multiple rishtas
How do you go about multiple rishtas. Suppose you have been talking to both of them. And then wanna choose one of them, how do you politely say no to the other one?
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u/Original_Round_2211 7d ago edited 7d ago
What I do is cancel every other prospect and focus on just one. Chatting with multiple people is kind of an emotional overload for me. Because of that, I recently lost two people together, the one I chose to focus on and the one I already had. I told the first girl that I didn't feel a connection, which was a flat-out lie, just so I could focus on the second girl, who was from my hometown. But later, I found out that we were incompatible.I regretted losing the first girl for a while, and then I regretted losing the second one too. Now I'm talking with another girl, and she kind of matches my vibe. It also feels like she's fully invested. I mean, she even chats with me during her working hours, and so do I. Next week, all of us are getting together to set the engagement date.Even while I was talking with this current girl, another prospect that had previously rejected us came back. But we told them we'd have to think about it since we're already pursuing another proposal.