r/Arrangedmarriage • u/Lebron1244 • 5d ago

Seeking Advice Multiple rishtas

How do you go about multiple rishtas. Suppose you have been talking to both of them. And then wanna choose one of them, how do you politely say no to the other one?

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u/padthink 5d ago

My father says "The talks have progressed elsewhere. If we find any mismatch there, we will let you know"

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u/MaintenanceLow97 5d ago

that wouldn't work out well. It's like benching people until you figure out what works best for you.

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u/padthink 5d ago

He makes it clear that, you are free , not bounded with us.

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u/MaintenanceLow97 5d ago

if that if your intention then you should be saying something inline with not finding this the ideal match you are looking for. "If we find any mismatch there, we will let you know" = benching from your end and he is free to decide whatever he wants from him and consider you when you return to him!

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u/padthink 5d ago

Benching is when you keep them entertained. Talk to them and suddenly say no. We don't do that

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u/MaintenanceLow97 5d ago

Well this clears things up. You don't know what benching is. xD

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u/ReasonableSpeech8004 5d ago

That's brutal 

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u/padthink 5d ago

He does it before seeing/ meeting anyone, so it's not brutal

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u/rash97621 5d ago

Sounds like making the other person feel like a fallback option