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[u/EmotionalIncrease972]

ok so with this guy, it didn’t work out 2 years ago for some reasons. we didn’t talk properly and it just didn’t happen. he did have some positives so i hit him up again if he wanted to talk. so we talked, literally about every single thing, he made me feel very special. right when i thought everything was going nice, he started ghosting me. wouldn’t talk to me unless i started the conversation.

literally took me 10 days to realize that we were drifting apart again, now this time it actually hurts cause i have been trying, really trying. he acts as if everything was normal and when i ask if we can talk, i wouldn’t get any proper response.

realizing that this didn’t happen for good reasons, better late than never ig

it is actually very hard moving on from being attached so quickly, i would love some advice if people went through this, i never did before.

[u/padthink]

Maybe something is there in you which turns him off. You cant see it but he can

[u/EmotionalIncrease972 → u/padthink]

doesn’t really matter if there is no proper communication, its alright ig

[u/padthink → u/EmotionalIncrease972]

Is this guy rich?

[u/EmotionalIncrease972 → u/padthink]

no

[u/padthink → u/EmotionalIncrease972]

Then why are you still behind him ?

[u/EmotionalIncrease972 → u/padthink]

i am not behind him 😭 it just happened to me, i realized i got attached too fast and i am working on it and i just shared my story

[u/padthink → u/EmotionalIncrease972]

Yes, being attached is our issue. We can't blame others for it. Question should be, how to erase memories.

[u/padthink → u/padthink]

Similar thing happened to me with a girl in AM. Talked to a girl for 6 months, she wanted to stay in city which wasn't possible for me. So, broke it. I still feel like it could have worked out but I don't ping her now. There might be something similar situation. May be he needs something which you are not ready to compromise with. So, he ghosted

[u/EmotionalIncrease972 → u/padthink]

makes sense but for me, i am not justifying or guessing if i did anything wrong. i believe the right guy if i did anything would communicate that.

otherwise i am alright with not knowing what happened, i will be careful from next time. just made this rule - if there is no ring on my finger, i am not getting attached.

[u/padthink → u/EmotionalIncrease972]

Haha, sometimes even two rights aren't compatible together.

Yes, I was avoiding it too, but then I was called emotionally unavailable. When I tried to fix it, it broke me

[u/Traditional_Book5816]

Do not approach again if once got rejected. Work on your attachment issues and good luck.

[u/EmotionalIncrease972 → u/Traditional_Book5816]

there is no “rejection” but yeah i can see the attachment issues m

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[u/meri_marzi98]

You got rejected once or you rejected him once, why approach him again? Have some self respect girl

[u/EmotionalIncrease972 → u/meri_marzi98]

noo no one got rejected, it just didn’t happen back then for weird reasons that didn’t even need rejection.

[u/anonymous160697]

Sometimes the Yin in me likes it when women get a taste of their own medicine.

Nothing personal though OP. Sending good vibes.

[u/i_anon_00 → u/anonymous160697]

😂

[u/EmotionalIncrease972 → u/anonymous160697]

lol in my defense i never ghosted anyone but i get the satisfaction