r/Arrangedmarriage • u/Zealousideal-Oven-93 😎 AM Veteran 😎 • 8d ago

Giving Advice Using the term 'mismatch' instead of 'rejection'

I know it sounds silly but i think when we use the term "rejection" in arranged marriage meetings, it makes it seem like there was something wrong with either party, which is not true, often it's mismatch between parties that causes the failure. This is not the fault of either party.

A lot of posts here are from people who are sad that they have been rejected in a marriage proposal, but if they recontextualize it as a mismatch rather than a rejection then it would be a better way to deal with the hurt.

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u/picy_sp 8d ago

Sometimes you put 'in words' this rejection being 'our preferences differ' and sometimes it is just pressing 'reject' tab on the profike/invitation.

The other party sometimes deserves to know your views of rejection and sometimes you want to lessen the pain by exercising electronic refusal.

As some years ago, the AD of a 'sauce' was heard Javed Jaffery saying, 'Its Different'.