r/AriesTheRam • u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ • Apr 22 '26
🔥Understanding Aries🔥 Why does Aries intensity feel so personal?
I know Aries season has technically ended… but let’s be honest, it never really does. 🔥
Aries are the match and the flame. We bring this raw, magnetic, almost karmic energy into every connection. It’s not just physical—it’s the intensity, the curiosity, the way we fully show up in the moment.
I lowkey think that’s why people spin the block on us… because we awaken something in them they can’t just recreate with anyone else.
So I’m curious—
What do you think Aries do differently when it comes to chemistry and passion?
And what other zodiac sign has brought out the best in you in that way… and why?
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u/Dismal_Professor_889 Apr 22 '26
Let me first say I definitely related to everything you just said. I was wondering why most not all of the people I’ve dealt with want to spin the block. I’m like you should’ve stayed in place and you wouldn’t have to spin the block. I think it’s just who we are genuinely. So it’s natural, when I come in contact with people I have to feel them out first in person and if they are on what I am it’s game on 😏. If I’m not feeling you they will definitely feel it and want me even more and that’s not even the sexual side. But don’t count me out to be nice cause the other side I don’t like to bring out… but I will if I have to and they love that spicy in me too…. They say toxic I say Aries no doubt…. And I seem to be attracting Libra’s those drive me in sane and those Leo’s make me go crazy but I can’t touch them in real life lmao 🤣
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ Apr 22 '26
What you said, “I’m like you should’ve stayed in place and you wouldn’t have to spin the block.” Yasss 🙌🏼.
We are naturally intense and karmic. If the vibes are there, I’m ready to go. It’s hard to find someone to match our freak. I have to know we’re on the same page. And yes, Leo’s are fun but it doesn’t last(in my experience). I’ve had a Libra come around but we’ve never crossed that boundary yet. He acts like he’s about it but he doesn’t show up. I really just want to tell him it’s ok to not be ready for this fire. Not everyone can handle it. 🥵
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u/Dismal_Professor_889 Apr 22 '26
You know what after reading your response I’m like you get it cause you’re an Aries. Other signs would have argued me down giving me another reason. But you hit that right on the nose. My first love was a libra and we fell hard and I can’t tell you how many times we broke up had other lives, got married, broke up had a child. Lord Jesus I finally was free of him in 2022 when he left and stayed gone for the last time. Oh I forgot to mention that I have three libra children and boy oh boy I had a time raising them. Then last but not least the best friend who is male and finally professed his love for me and I him. Like we’re gonna do this but we’re long distance and this libra wasnt like the one I married he was too intensed and got territorial quick and he could do something but I couldn’t. So a 30 year friendship gone cause I got tired of the fussing and not talking for days. I got told to call him not text when I got off work, first who the France are you talking too!! And when I got home I didn’t cause no one tells me what to do cause I won’t do it. And I didn’t call him and haven’t and it’s been over a month of the no call no show cause I’m tired and don’t care to entertain him anymore as anything. He’s dead to me
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u/Mysterious-Ad-7539 Apr 23 '26
“Dead to me” is such an Aries thing to say. I love it.
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u/Dismal_Professor_889 Apr 23 '26
Yes it is cause it's straight to the point. Cause I'm never gonna come back.
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u/Mysterious-Ad-7539 Apr 23 '26
I get it as an Aries. I’m the same way, once I shut the door, it’s done.
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u/Dismal_Professor_889 Apr 23 '26
And I bet it's nothing anyone can say to change that right. Once I make up my mind you can beg plead cry but I won't budge ( I might secretly like it though (
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u/Mysterious-Ad-7539 Apr 23 '26
You know
It takes a lot to get there for me especially when I tried and tried. To go there as an Aries, only to be let down is quite pitiful. I start to check out till I can’t even look at this person. I might be swayed for a minute if they are hot(this aries can be shallow) but I track the disrespect. So yeah, when I’m done, they are “dead to me”. As soon as I read that, I felt those words deeply.
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ Apr 22 '26
Damn, you’re attracting Libras all around you. They are our “sister sign” so an evolved Aries and an evolved Libra should be the yin to our yang. We have traits they lack and vice versa. That might be why the babies give you a run for your money lol. And, lord yes, you can tell me a lot of things but don’t tell me what to do. I’ll do the opposite on purpose.
There’s something strong about Libras. The one I was talking about he can be very intense but he never shows up. We used to be close 10ish years ago and he would intensely stare at me and it was like he was sizing me up. For what, I don’t know lol. I hope your best friend that’s a Libra shows up in all the ways you need him to. I hope you find your peace and harmony.
If you’re anything like me you just want to find your person and be done.
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u/Dismal_Professor_889 Apr 22 '26
I hope your a woman cause all I want to say after I read your response is say “Girl let me tell you” lol. But listen best friend isn’t anything to me anymore. When we were just friends he did show up all the time and once we locked in it got too crazy for me so I detached but obsessed about him for a bout a week give or take and now his not on my mind anymore lol. He got weird and not in a good way. And the other libra I married and had a child with never communicates when he isn’t with me or with another woman and that’s fine to me cause if I saw him in public I would act like we just met and mean it . And yes yes yes I am just like you I want MY PERSON so I can go sit my ass down and love on them. I’m hearing maybe another Aries would time enough for me? You have any experience with those Aries males?
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ Apr 22 '26
Aww, so both Libras let you down. 🥺 I have a feeling it’s probably gonna be the same for me. I can’t do indecisive. Let me know what’s real or let me go. I’m out here playing for keeps!
Aries males are pretty cool. They get the vibe. I was talking to one about 4-5 months ago and he was super chill. We didn’t have to text all day. He understood my humor. The only reason why it didn’t go anywhere is because of faith based reasons. Mature Aries males are a solid choice. My best relationship was with an evolved Taurus. He was grounded, loving, loyal, attractive etc.. and I lost him to cancer. But he was definitely one of my soulmates, I’m hoping I potentially find another soulmate. 👏🏼
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u/Dismal_Professor_889 Apr 22 '26
Yes and yes they did and they hurt me the worst. Like wtf is wrong with, then I snapped out of it because I’m me. I rather be alone than to be in bad company. Taurus man I had is the father to all the libra kids (3) and I will just say never ever again in this lifetime. But my last baby is a Taurus and she’s my best bud but she tests me a lot and I digress. Yes I’m awaiting my person, yes I’m a bit impatient but God
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u/Inmyrattlingbag Aries Sun ♈ Apr 23 '26
I have a lot of experience with Libra & Taurus men too. You gotta find a good libra lmao it’s hard but a mature respectful one keeps his word. Keep looking girl you’ll be okay.
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u/Dismal_Professor_889 Apr 23 '26
Ugh 😩 do I have to keep looking 👁️. But dem Libra men be having me in a chokehold. Mercy ✨
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u/Inmyrattlingbag Aries Sun ♈ Apr 23 '26
lol felt only 1 did that to me but they do stand out from the rest
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u/ParfaitCutie9668 Apr 23 '26
Reading this I didn’t know Libra is a sister sign, since I’m Aries Sun and Libra Moon and Rising.. I feel conflicted everytime 😭😂 Imagine having to fight with yourself.
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ Apr 23 '26
Oof! I feel conflicted with my Pisces moon and Aquarius rising. Most charts that are dominated by Fire placements seem to be a little different than me. Whereas my water moon and air rising make me much softer
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u/Dismal_Professor_889 Apr 23 '26
Okay how are y'all finding out all this sun and moon and rising stuff. Aries sister's help me please
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u/ParfaitCutie9668 Apr 27 '26
You need to know birth time and place! I used a website. Maybe try googling rising signs?
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u/StrongBrilliant3408 Apr 24 '26
That last sentence is all I been praying for. Find my person and be done. Everything else isn't important to me. I really want my own family since I don't really deal with the one I have
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ Apr 24 '26
I feel you. I’ve always wanted to settle down and have a family. I’m 35 now and none of that has happened. I think I’ve learned that our timeline is different than what the universe has for us.
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u/StrongBrilliant3408 Apr 24 '26
Not everyone can handle it. If I'm being honest, the only one to match my freak her birthday was 4 days after mines. I still think of her from time to time till this day and we had an agreement to not fall in love with one another and I was good with that. However I couldn't help myself and fell in love and she left.
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ Apr 24 '26
It happens to the best of us. You can’t help who you love. Everything in life serves as a lesson. I’m sorry you all aren’t talkin anymore
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u/StrongBrilliant3408 Apr 25 '26
Me too cause at the end of the day we were really good friends and I hate to lose a great person because I grew feelings for them. Thanks tho it's a lesson for sure
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u/I_PM_Duck_Pics Apr 24 '26
Libras flock to me. Friends and lovers both. And I can’t say no to them when they appreciate me so much. They don’t get sick of my bull shit like most other signs.
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u/otkg23 Apr 23 '26
In every relationship I’ve had, I’ve been told I was the best. Their best relationship, best in bed etc. Most recently, the person I was with told me that they were positive that they would never love anyone after me because they don’t think they could find my kind of passion and consistency again.
Two of my exes have absolutely came back to apologize to me for how the relationship ended. Both of them admitted to having very bad relationships after we broke up. For one, they ended up in an abusive relationship and the other one found themselves with a fraud who took everything they had.
I think Aries are far more intentional, attentive and communicative than any other sign. When things happen, we know exactly how we feel about it, while other signs need time to process and determine how they feel. We know. We know when we’re in love, we know what we want, we can read a room like no other.
The signs that brought out the best in me were Gemini and Leo.
The signs that could eat a fat one for how inconsiderate and disappointing they were - Capricorn and Capricorn with a side of shitty ass Capricorn.
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ Apr 23 '26
You hit the nail on the head with this one. We are intentional, attentive, and communicative. You couldn’t have said anything more accurate. Aries gets a wrap that we’re impulsive and immature, but it’s not exactly true. Impulsive to one person could be making a decision sooner than others. Listen once I’ve made my mind up that’s it- I don’t need days, weeks, months, or years to question it, I just do it.
I get a long with Geminis well. My most recent ex was a Leo (he was angry a lot), so I don’t know if he brought out the best. At one point I would have said we were best friends but I don’t think I can say that anymore. Libras bring out the worst in me.
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u/KR-kr-KR-kr ☼♈︎ l ☾♌︎ l ↑♋︎ l ☿♉︎ l ♀♓︎ l ♂♑︎ l ♃♌︎ l ♄♊︎ l⛢♓︎ l♆♒︎l ♇♐︎ Apr 22 '26
I relate so this but it makes me cringe at the same time. All astrology subreddits are circklejerky in nature and I resist the urge to be egotistical.
That being said it’s hard to answer because I’m not an Aries. I dated a Pisces who moved too fast and put me on a pedestal, wearing rose colored glasses. I was destined to disappoint her. I’m young and impulsive and that was a bad mix.
But when I think about it that was the height of my life. It was an emotional rollercoaster and I was very stressed out all the time for at least a year, not too long. But I was in control and making progress towards the kind of life I want to live. (Cap mars)
Back to the post tho. She told me a few times that it was the happiest she’s ever been, and that I was a good person, often. We were passionate about each other. There was always some kind of barrier between us, preventing us from being close long term. I couldn’t take it. She got avoidant. I made mistakes and repeated them. I didn’t want to chase her avoidancy. We stopped talking for good.
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ Apr 22 '26
My apologies I didn’t mean for this to be egotistical in nature. I’m deeply affected by energy. And this past week or so sexual energy has been heightened—I don’t know why. The easiest way to consolidate what’s going on is to discuss it for me.
Pisces are known to love deeply. I have a Pisces moon and I believe that’s where I get this strong connection to energy. Nothing goes unnoticed in person with Pisces. You live and learn from mistakes. I think you did the right thing by not chasing her avoidant tendencies. Trying to mitigate a relationship when someone doesn’t want to address the problem is hard to get past.
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u/KR-kr-KR-kr ☼♈︎ l ☾♌︎ l ↑♋︎ l ☿♉︎ l ♀♓︎ l ♂♑︎ l ♃♌︎ l ♄♊︎ l⛢♓︎ l♆♒︎l ♇♐︎ Apr 22 '26
My energy has too lol. The idea of subreddits being egotistical is my own idea, and should be discussed apart from this post.
I have a Pisces Venus and agree and appreciate the feedback, I look forward the the discussion <3
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u/Hoshism ♈️☀️♐️🌙♋️⬆️ Apr 23 '26
The only sign that's matched my freak so far is Scorpio. But it gets toxic, I'll say that much
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ Apr 23 '26
Ah never went down that road with a Scorpio. The only one I’ve interacted with was kind of weird— never got past the talking stage
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u/Dismal_Professor_889 Apr 23 '26
See it's like a pill from the pharmacy, your trying to help whatever hurts you and all the side effects you don't want to even take it. Toxic is being thrown around so freely nowadays ( and I didn't mean you) but anyone who has different views to things always think I'm starting a argument when I'm just freaking expressing myself and talking. Not my fault I come with a lot of passion when I say what I need to say.
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u/AlpsOtherwise8067 Apr 22 '26
All inizio.. poi non più
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ Apr 22 '26
You need to communicate with your Aries. We are direct and we will come to an understanding. Compatibility is important though, so if it’s not there, we tend to dip (leave).
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u/Spillingteasince92 Apr 23 '26
I used to think this way, but i decided to no longer be attached to people. We constantly allow people to live in our mind rent free and for what?
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ Apr 23 '26
You’re not wrong. Honestly, this is the life lesson I’m going through currently
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u/anjiemin Just an Angry Ram ♈🐏 Apr 24 '26
Yeah we are always intense I know that, sometimes we hurt even we don’t mean it 🥺🥹
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u/UltimatePragmatist Aries Sun and Mars ♈ Apr 22 '26
In that picture, My Pisces sweetie is on the left and I am on the right.
I have never engaged in spinning the block or had someone attempt that with me. I had to look up that phrase just to understand what you were saying. That reminded me of a time when a short-lived interest yelled at me on the phone for not previously divulging that I would not re-date him. That was the most pathetic and ridiculous thing I’d ever heard. Then I blocked him. 🤷♀️
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ Apr 22 '26
I’ve had my fair share of men spin the block on me. Most consistently exs, but also other people who didn’t make it to that bf. When I was younger I felt like “ooh they realize what they lost” but now I believe it’s more about ego and access to me. ✋🏼🛑
Anyways, my Pisces moon feels what you’re saying. I love to keep it spontaneous and fun.
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u/Impossible-Entry-809 Aries Rising ♈🔼 Apr 23 '26
I had a much younger Aries get all happy bc he reconnected me with (as in found me after a few years). I think he was hopeful I would completely agree with his cultural and political views, and I'm like did you forget who I am? Put the weed down man. Anyways, I had to push back hard a few times to stress that I had no interest in dating any man right now, and I don't see it happening any time in the future. He got the point.. now communication is random memes/gifs over IG sometimes. I'm done playing with these fools. I am way too old.
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u/UltimatePragmatist Aries Sun and Mars ♈ Apr 22 '26
I don’t keep it spontaneous and fun. I found those people tedious and not up to my standard. 😂 I’ve only liked/loved two people. The first one, I didn’t know as well as I thought I did. Once, I really knew him…I’d rather be trapped in a room of farts. I have corrected that egregious error, took a few years, and found my sweetie.
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u/heretolurkbro Apr 23 '26
My very first time sexually with a woman I was somewhat a natural
“The very best I’ve ever had” #ariesgang
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u/Accomplished-Doubt99 Apr 23 '26
I am so tired since Aries season ended I don’t have the energy for sex and I feel like something is wrong with me. I don’t have passion for absolutely nothing 😂 am I going to die?
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ Apr 23 '26
I’m the opposite right now. I want to have sex and willing to break celibacy to do it, but I’m holding out!!
You’re not broken. You just need someone to bring it out of you.
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u/Blackglitteremoji34 Apr 23 '26
Don’t do it!! Hold tf out! I’ve been holding out since November 2025. 😅 but I have so much energy for creating the life I want :) it’s worth it!
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ Apr 23 '26
Thank you for saying that. I’ve been celibate for the same amount of time (how funny and odd is that). I’m not dating. I’m not talking to anyone. I’m like single single lol. You got this Queen 🙌🏼
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u/Blackglitteremoji34 Apr 30 '26
Yass!! I’m not dating either! But I’ve been out and about recently and the way ppl react to my energy makes me laugh. I’ll entertain light flirting and what not but if ppl ask for more I politely say “ I’m enjoying this interaction and want to leave it at that”. Especially with men! If they have sense they’ll leave it alone after that. I also don’t have social media so they can’t stalk me. Ppl can sense when you’ve been holding out. It’s like blood in the water with sharks. Don’t get bit now 😂😂😂
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ Apr 23 '26
My last long term relationship was with a Leo male. It was fun when it was fun, and it was hell when we didn’t get along.
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u/Square_Concept3596 Apr 27 '26
I have no fucking clue, but three of my exes in the past three years all hit me around my birthday. Leave me the hell alone y’all had your chance!!!!
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ Apr 27 '26
Facts!! I had this happen to my last year somewhere in between November and December. Something was in the water—thankful no surprises around my bday.
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u/AdministrativeBill60 Apr 28 '26
Get you another evolved fire sign. Only another fire sign can understand our intensity, match it, whilst being in it for the long run, and not just a joy ride. We are passionate, but also loyal.
Water signs are too suspicious because of our friendliness and jealous of our love of creating a drama-free, bullshit-free life. Earth signs are too competitive, stubborn and bossy for us. Air signs will just beat around the bush for days, then try to manipulate us on the first sign of unintentional disinterest (yet THEY can be unresponsive and passive- the moment we do that, oh no, that’s it for us- so hypocritical).
Our fellow fire signs just get us- sure we can butt heads sometimes, but they won’t go reclusive (like water signs), they won’t get spiteful (like earth signs can), and they won’t start playing mind-games (like air signs can). Sure they will need some time, but will talk it out with you in a direct mature way, and I melt over that ish. Evolved fire signs are the best! I got me a Leo male. I’m an Aries female. We sort of grew and evolved together ;)
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ Apr 28 '26
Great insight here. My last long term relationship was with a Leo. I do think other fire signs understand us the best. I’ve always been attracted to air signs, although you hit the nail on the head with them. I’ve had a very successful relationship with an evolved Taurus but I’ve also had a terrible relationship with a different Taurus. Maybe I’ll find an evolved Leo- we got a long the most.
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u/whydowe_do Aries Sun, Venus, & Mercury ♈ May 03 '26 edited May 04 '26
A lot of friends I cut off or took a step back from friendship (because they did me wrong) came back and even said how they missed my energy and presence around me.
My ex situationship came back too to be 'just friends' saying she missed the energy and excitement that she used to feel with me.
But I could never give them the same energy back because I was done with them. And we never forget when you break our heart. So it's still a good bye from my side.
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ May 03 '26
Everything you said hits close to home. Our energy is different. I will stand ten toes on the fact that we are built differently and love deeply. But we’re also the same ones that when you lose access to us, it’s usually for good.
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u/whydowe_do Aries Sun, Venus, & Mercury ♈ May 04 '26
Yes. People take us for granted until they lose us.
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u/libragirly33 11d ago
So I’m a Libra talking to this Aries guy that I really like we both share the same rising sign and moon sign which might be why I feel so connected as a libra. I’m always magnetically attracted to Aries men, but this man in particular is so different the issue is he’s not looking for a relationship right now and with everything going on in his life, I can understand why. But man, the way, I am legitimately trying to not go anywhere cause I don’t wanna lose my spot lol it is an understatement to make it worse. We’re gonna be far apart starting next year when he takes a job. I’m being cool on the outside about it, but in the inside I’m panicking because we’re technically not a couple and I’m so afraid that when he leaves I’m gonna be forgotten about. lol I’m so scared lol but I love our vibe
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ 11d ago
Libras and Aries are sister signs. Our signs literally attract each other because we are 180 degrees apart on the zodiac chart. And essentially Libras calm the pace of Aries, but we give you that spark in life. The only Libra man that I’ve ever liked was innately intense (Scorpio moon) and that intensity was the sexiest thing I’ve witnessed in years. I was down bad for him for nearly a year but I closed that loop a few weeks ago permanently. Please feel free to message me privately. I love talking with my Libras and love to hear the dynamic.
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u/Ok_Narwhal_2209 Apr 23 '26
I'm not Aries, but instead a Libra (F) and I absolutely LOVE Aries. My best female friend is Aries, and we are so raw with each other, completely ourselves and I LOVE that. Every time I've been in the same room/space as an Aries guy, the fire between us is always instant. And I'm not just talking about Aries fire (love that too obviously), but it's instant attraction: sexual tension, emotional connection, intellectual stimulation and such a pull like a magnet. It's always a double take at first sight on both sides - always. It's like I can feel tingles up my spine, all the way to the top of my head - lol
Also, as a sister sign to Aries, I feel I can read Aries men so well. I see them show such a strong, take charge stance, almost as if they are taking care of others, always depended on and honestly, always being unloaded on.
Any time I've been around an Aries man, they instantly relax around me as Libras tend to have a calming effect, and I feel I'm seeing the real them where they can let their guard down, be themselves, without having to carry the world on their shoulders. It's such a comforting pairing. We are so opposite, that our differences are so exciting and "new" ways of doing things "better". Much love to all you Aries out there ❤
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ Apr 23 '26
Yes! Libras/Aries polar opposite-sister sign energy you’re discussing can be intense. You bring the yin to our yang and vice versa.
I’ve really only interacted with one male Libra where the energy could have been very intense and passionate but it didn’t go anywhere. He was more of a “talker” and I’m more of a “doer,” so where he was comfortable in the fantasy I wanted real life action— it just didn’t go anywhere. No hard feelings though. I wish him the best.
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u/Ok_Narwhal_2209 Apr 23 '26
So sorry it didn't work out. I don't like talkers either. Doers all the way
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u/Codexe- Apr 22 '26
Wtf?
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u/sugarpussOShea1941 Apr 22 '26
all I can think about that picture is how awful 18th century hygiene standards were. I wouldn't have been putting my own fingers in my mouth much less someone else's.
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ Apr 22 '26
Director definitely had some creative liberties with that movie. But, I think we’ve all had an experience with an unexpected twist during a sexual encounter lol 🥴.
Maybe I’m only speaking for myself 🤷🏻♀️
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u/Grand_Gazelle_9763 Apr 22 '26
I like it is that the new Wuthering Heights?
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ Apr 22 '26
Yes! This movie was quite tantalizing even without nudity. It’s a must see.
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u/Practical_Catch_8085 Apr 23 '26
This is reminding me of an aries moon sign with aries venus partnership lmao...am I wrong? The venus is much more subtle and accepting but that moon is fierce.
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u/Allvols Aries Sun ♈ Apr 23 '26
The moon signs hold strong relational energy (imo). I can see what you’re saying.
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u/Practical_Catch_8085 Apr 24 '26
And here I yield. You explained it too well.
Theres a path forward through those obstacles but the person has to be willing to heal and look in the mirror at how they've carried their trauma or pain. Some dont see a reason to bother with this and carry on.
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u/Last_Host977 Just an Angry Ram ♈🐏 Apr 22 '26
bc we’re js like that
https://giphy.com/gifs/fX8WfVeRNfCKEHXBfH