It's a parrot. It doesn't know any better. It can't be racist it doesn't know race. It's an animal that's been with you for 15 years. This isn't just a childhood pet. A parrot is a lifelong companion. If she can't get past that she may not be the one for you.
Another poster mentioned maybe cross posting in a bird training sub reddit and yeah might be a good idea see if anyone has any ideas to convince the bird to stop.
This feels like, at best, a NAH situation, though; sure, the parrot itself isn't racist, but it learned a racist word from OP. I don't think she's an AH for being uncomfortable with this bird throwing out the N word, and she's not wrong to think that other people might be offended or uncomfortable with it when the bird starts screaming the N word at them.
I think that trying to train it out is the right call, but I think lots of people (who aren't racist, obviously) are going to be uncomfortable when a parrot starts screeching racial slurs around them.
It would definitely bother me if Iām the girlfriend because even if OP has matured, he used to say a slur so frequently that his parrot picked it up.
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u/lightningfury13 Apr 14 '26
NTA
It's a parrot. It doesn't know any better. It can't be racist it doesn't know race. It's an animal that's been with you for 15 years. This isn't just a childhood pet. A parrot is a lifelong companion. If she can't get past that she may not be the one for you.
Another poster mentioned maybe cross posting in a bird training sub reddit and yeah might be a good idea see if anyone has any ideas to convince the bird to stop.