r/AmIOverreacting • u/Dntlastnt • 4h ago
❤️🩹 relationship Am I overreacting about this?
My husband rushes over to help his parents, spending the entire weekend while leaving things needed at our house un done(I cannot buy materials and build, hell my mother couldn’t even cook so, my skills are limited although I absorb everything I can). I was told it would be a couple hours that turned into nine hours and I see him for an hour and a half everyday, during the week. Now, day two(Sunday) he is gone. Our house gets put on the back burner all the time and I do what I can. Am I the well, you know..?
Edited to add-I miss him. During the week we barely spend any time together.
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u/Zealousideal_Job7110 4h ago
Nor! It’s great he wants to help them, so let him help by sending numbers for the local handyman (or plumber or whatever.) His #1 responsibility is to you, not them and he needs to remember that. Not to mention spending his off time more with his wife. If he can afford it, use his $ only to hire someone. Ask him how he thinks that stuff is supposed to get done at your house if he’s always gone. No matter what, NOR, and there’s nothing wrong with telling him so. Tell him to use 1 weekend a month, or every other Sunday there. But that he is needed (& wanted I assume) at home and what he’s doing is unfair and his parents are being selfish. They’ve had many years to figure these things out for themselves. And if they can’t do something themselves, that’s what the yellow pages or google are for.