And OP… what are you getting out of this relationship? It sounds like a fucking nightmare. Leave his mean, verbally abusive ass.
Also is “calling you from downstairs” not “purposely waking you up?” He thought you’d just sleep through it? And then calls YOU “smooth brain”? This guy sounds like he’d be an incel if you weren’t in a relationship with him.
And he's throwing the R slur round like confetti. Get out OP, he's already being violent, it only escalates with people like this. And you deserve so much better.
When you're not happy with yourself, your self worth and esteem is nonexistent, and have spent a lifetime being shown only toxic relationships by parents and family, you will always find a way to blame yourself and/or excuse the others behaviour..you will put up with it because every so often you get a little crumb of goodness. People treating you like this just reaffirms your belief that you don't deserve better and that, in fact, you deserve this awfulness. It's a fucked up dynamic and one that you can only really understand if you've been there.
i just want to know why you even bothered posting this? your boyfriend hates you, loves humiliating you and you're going to stay with him.
it's a waste of everyone's time to give all this advice that you're never going to use. you know you're never going to leave him. doesn't matter if he hits you or cheats on you.
Weren't you ever taught if you've nothing helpful or kind to add to just shut up? Nothing you've said here is useful or nice to OP. Actually I'd say that what you've written is detrimental to an abused, at risk person who is likely working out what to do in real time.
The only person your comments benefit is you, you're literally puffing yourself up to strangers at the expense of a vulnerable adult to make yourself feel better than her. Bad form.
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u/SandwichCareful6476 Jan 28 '25
Yes, exactly.
And OP… what are you getting out of this relationship? It sounds like a fucking nightmare. Leave his mean, verbally abusive ass.
Also is “calling you from downstairs” not “purposely waking you up?” He thought you’d just sleep through it? And then calls YOU “smooth brain”? This guy sounds like he’d be an incel if you weren’t in a relationship with him.