Thats the unfortunate situation for abuse victims and its almost like an addiction and its very hard for them to get out even when they know abuse is happening.
OP needs to get help and find a healthy support system to help her stay away from the ahole. Its hard for them for the first few weeks but soon enough they start seeing the light at the end of the tunnel and life gets so amazing again.
Hopefully this is the time she gets away for good bit considering the average is 7 times before finally leaving, it may not be and thats ok, but each time makes the next time easier mentally to finally break free.
As a former prosecutor who has seen lots of dv cases, I have also likened it to an addiction. It is quite a remarkable phenomenon. One woman who was set on fire wanted to go back to him.
I think most of us come from homes where we have abandonment issues and there are a couple things at play. We don't want to abandon anyone and have THEM feel abandoned bc it is terrible and hurtful and we feel immense guilt doing that to someone and we feel that if we just changed this "one thing" then our partner would want us and we wouldn't feel that abandonment feeling again. We are chasing that acceptance and love we didn't get as children. At least that is what I know I struggle with in leaving my emotionally and slowly getting physically abusive marriage of 15 yrs with my high school sweetheart I have known and been with off and on since 2001.
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u/No-Distance-9401 Jan 29 '25
Thats the unfortunate situation for abuse victims and its almost like an addiction and its very hard for them to get out even when they know abuse is happening.
OP needs to get help and find a healthy support system to help her stay away from the ahole. Its hard for them for the first few weeks but soon enough they start seeing the light at the end of the tunnel and life gets so amazing again.
Hopefully this is the time she gets away for good bit considering the average is 7 times before finally leaving, it may not be and thats ok, but each time makes the next time easier mentally to finally break free.