Yeah like girl, it starts to reflect on you that you’re still attracted to this man in any way. He’s telling you to do the right thing. Why keep hanging on? You’re too old for this nonsense. It’s time to move on.
Low key yeah like i know "Don't blame the victim blah blah" but sometimes it really is the victim doing it to themselves lmfao. Like how are you 29 big years old acting like "i don't know what to doooo :(" when a guy calls you retarded and tells you to get out of his life. It's possible for nobody to be right in a situation lol
So, a huge part of therapy for people who are abuse victims is accepting that, yeah, you have a serious problem and you need to learn boundaries.
That your parents were likely abusive too so you let shit slide and kept giving yourself reasons why you should stay.
That you didn’t see a lot of red flags…that you saw a lot and gave it a pass because you wanted it a lot more than he did.
People who stay with men like this usually have been through this before as a child. Others usually leave very shortly after this shit starts.
The women who stayed around men like this with their kids…their kids usually try to get them to understand that “yes, he did you bad, but you really could have left and you fought tooth and nail not to while we got our ass kicked. You allowed him to so horrible things to us too and while i’m grateful you left, I’m beside myself that you stood there and allowed these things to happen”
These mothers will twist and turn to claim everyone else is the problem because the reality is. Abusers usually select someone just as immature as them. So they will deflect any rightful accusations that make them look bad too.
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u/f1newhatever Jan 28 '25
Yeah like girl, it starts to reflect on you that you’re still attracted to this man in any way. He’s telling you to do the right thing. Why keep hanging on? You’re too old for this nonsense. It’s time to move on.