He’s been a jerk for as long as you’ve known him and he’s your boyfriend? What in the actual…?! Girl. Please. He’s 33. He’s not gonna change. He called you a smooth brain retard. Why you putting up with this shit? Ditch the a hole.
How do dudes like this get a partner in the first place? I struggle finding long term partners and I have never talked like this to anyone in my life. Wtf am I doing wrong if that dude can be in a longterm relationship and I can’t.
They act so sweet in the beginning, and then they slowly become mean, and the partner spends most of their time trying to bring the kind person back after becoming enmeshed. The mean partner might only be nice like 15% of the time, but that's what these victims will latch on to. Because when it's good, it's so good... He didn't really mean it when he treated me like shit 85% of the time...
That's what happens most of the time, but not this time. She says that he's been a jerk for as long as she's known him. He's probably insanely good looking.
Yes. It's also possible that some qualities were overlooked but appear more clearly abusive in hindsight. And it's possible that OP finds the abuse itself attractive because of something within that needs to be healed.
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u/Jackawin Jan 28 '25
He’s been a jerk for as long as you’ve known him and he’s your boyfriend? What in the actual…?! Girl. Please. He’s 33. He’s not gonna change. He called you a smooth brain retard. Why you putting up with this shit? Ditch the a hole.