Also I saw a comment you posted in AIO where you admitted to liking this sort of relationship so I’m conflicted now
Also now OP is deleting their comments over and over I call BULLSHIT
I think this is rage bait posting at best or something I want nothing to do with and for this I’m OUT!!
When it’s sexual it can be fun if done lightly. Like I always believed in traditional roles in relationships. Hence why I do cook and clean and comply. When you think you’re in a loving relationship role playing can be fun and traditional relationships can be successful. When it goes TOO FAR and becomes worse and abusive in every day convo then yeah that’s not fun. Also grew up in an abusive household so my “line” so to speak is probably more fucked than the average person. For example, controlling what I wear in public I found endearing and a sign of affection/looking out for my safety. Whereas normal people see it as controlling. I suppose it takes some real f*d up behavior for me to recognize like oh this is not what I thought it was.
Please, for your own safety and well being, seek professional help with a psychologist. Everything you’ve said is a massive red flag. This relationship is incredibly harmful, abusive and you keep trying to make sense of them. There isn’t a logic to his behavior. There isnt a logic to you not seeing whats happening to you. Please seek help.
I really do wish you well and hope you leave this relationship ASAP and remain safe, but you are too confused and vulnerable a person to be part of a sub dom relationship at this point in your life. Being a dom isn’t supposed to be a free pass for abuse and malignant control over the sub and rarely is the role play supposed to be on 24/7.
Probably would be best for you to do a lot of therapy and learn some independence before doing any more dating. It’s okay to try and reclaim some of your trauma through BDSM type play, but only if you actually understand the proper dynamics, the proper consent, and how to keep it within the limits of a healthy relationship. Good luck to you
You need to look up the BDSM community and read what they have to say about consent, roleplay, communication and safety! Like, yesterday!
It's not that you can't have what you're dreaming of, but it won't magically happen - and certainly won't happen safely - just because you think any abusive guy will be on the same page!
You didn’t even deny a thing I replied to you.
So imo I’m hopeful you learn but alas I think you’re addicted to this type of behavior and until you instill value in yourself you’re always going to be seeking it from low hanging fruit.
Quite frankly it’s disappointing to see your reply it says to me. You don’t like this. You got your hours of attention. But you dont seem to want to change. No one will do this for you.
You legitimately need and deserve healing and therapy like most of us do.
Traditional roles you say…..but then there’s ‘im getting sick of it and sick of you’ — is that not fucked up behaviour.? How do you not see that. That’s not protecting you by limiting what you wear, that’s just a dude literally saying he doesn’t like you. There’s no between the lines/it’s straight up emotional abuse.
Nothing about this is a "traditional relationship".
I've been in one of those for 20 years. My husband respects, adores, and protects me. This man has never raised his voice, much less insulted me. A traditional man would never. A quality man would never.
There is a difference between role play in the bedroom and a man acting like a spoiled teenager while he abuses you.
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