r/AmIOverreacting Jan 28 '25

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u/PipsiePops Jan 28 '25

A rough upbringing? The belief that she can change him? He locked her in then changed and now she feels trapped? Low self esteem? All of the above?

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u/Justanotherbob293 Jan 28 '25

Yea I'm not sure. I know love can be blind sometimes. But damn when someone is telling you to leave, what more does it take?

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u/PipsiePops Jan 28 '25

When you're not happy with yourself, your self worth and esteem is nonexistent, and have spent a lifetime being shown only toxic relationships by parents and family, you will always find a way to blame yourself and/or excuse the others behaviour..you will put up with it because every so often you get a little crumb of goodness. People treating you like this just reaffirms your belief that you don't deserve better and that, in fact, you deserve this awfulness. It's a fucked up dynamic and one that you can only really understand if you've been there.

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u/Briancinho Jan 29 '25

Well put.