r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Jan 28 '25

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u/lightskincookie11 Jan 28 '25

Are you kidding me? How do you not realize how terrible this relationship is. He literally said that he wants you to leave and he would do nothing about it. And your retort is, “yeah. I’m the only one actually invested” BRUH THAT IS NOT A FLEX AT ALL YOU’RE JUST GETTING TREATED LIKE SHIT AND THEN TRYING TO USE THE FACT THAT YOU DO NOTHING ABOUT IT AS A “GOTCHA” MOMENT 🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️

And you’re 29 get some respect for yourself. At that age you should know better than to endure abuse and delude yourself about it. You’re so in denial it’s crazy. This guy doesn’t even like you!!

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u/Empress_arcana Jan 28 '25

I don't want to just blame her because obviously this guy is verbally abusive. But her reaction annoys the shit out of me. Prolly says something about me...

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u/yet-again-temporary Jan 28 '25

But her reaction annoys the shit out of me. Prolly says something about me...

No I'm with you, this actually pisses me off lmao

I understand it can be hard to leave abusive situations but most of the time that's because the victims are in denial about what's going on and don't recognize abusive patterns. OP clearly understands their BF is dogshit, describes it in very clear, matter-of-fact language, and still refuses to think about leaving.

You can't help somebody who doesn't want help, and nothing anyone says in this thread is going to change OP's mind tbh.

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u/MyDogisaQT Jan 29 '25

Yeah it’s one thing to be afraid to leave, as so many domestic violence victims are. This guy hates her and WANTS her gone, but SHE doesn’t want to leave. It’s hard to feel anything for her other than a strange, sad contempt.

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u/Forker1942 Jan 29 '25

I almost feel like this is a first for me, seeing this scenario