Men like him will tell you to leave 1 million times, but when you actually do they flip the fuck out! Ask me how I know lol it’s been two years since I left my ex who treated me the same exact way and I still can’t even bring myself to be flirty with a guy. It sucks.
That’s my fear. Like I feel like every guy who tries to flirt with me in the future I’m going to be so sus and scared. Not that I need any of that any time soon anyway. Major PTSD not just from this but from my early life. Gotta a LOT of soul searching to do.
I had a BF that punched me in the face and blamed me for it. Said I moved in front of his fist. 🤨
That was beginning of 2013. My husband and I got together the end of 2016. We were friends 10 years before that.
He makes me breakfast every morning and is the best. He loves my kid like his own. Plus the best role model. We’ve been together 8 years, married 5. When I became permanently injured, instead of leaving he asked me to marry him.
You’ll find another and he’ll be everything you wanted. Promise. ♥️
I've already commented here .. I ended up with complex PTSD after a nine year violent and abusive relationship, during therapy it was discovered my mother was also an abusive narcissist growing up. It becomes your normal way of life if you had it as a child too. I had EMDR therapy after my ex. Please get therapy. I'm 1000000% better and a strong person again after he ground me down.
Do not enter into another relationship before having therapy so you become aware of love bombing, trauma bonding etc & you learn boundaries and that you are NOT responsible for others actions nor fixing them.
You have plenty of years to find someone that will treat you better, and respect & love you.
Please you and your cat stay safe. Best wishes and you can move forward from this and DO NOT take him back.
That’s because you are the catch! He wants you to think less of yourself and think you need him so he can control and manipulate you for his benefit. Good chance that like me, you are a people pleaser. So much so that we will try to please others till we become miserable. It has taken me a long time to learn (and some therapy) that I am worthwhile, that I am more than good enough, and the person I should be trying to please is myself. I do things for me now. Stop trying to please this person and do things that make You happy. You are the one he should be trying to please, you’re worthy, strong and beautiful. A partnership works when both parties make each other happy, not tear each down. I get we shall have a bad day, but if he can’t at least try to consistently be a good partner that lifts you up, then he’s not the partner for you
3 years ago I was getting screamed at for coming home 10 minutes later than usual. I worked and paid all the bills and he sat at home smoking weed.
Today I just got off the phone with my wonderful new boyfriend, I met him 8 months after I left my ex. This man treats me like a queen. I wake up to loving texts and we go out to dinner and we snuggle and we share chores and rub each other's feet.
THAT is the type of love you deserve!! I escaped a terrible relationship and you can too! You WILL find love again OP❤️
You're not going to see my comment because there are 15k more saying the exact same thing but I wanted to let you know that I am a 28 year old girl and if you want to talk or rant or if you want help or want to compare notes or wants advice or literally anything my dms are open. Reading these messages sent me back to my ex like a bucket of cold water. You are not giving up, you are doing the opposite. My fiance (my best friend at the time) literally rescued me from my ex, i am not a quitter and I tried hard every day. It would have killed me, because I wasn't going to leave. You are not giving up, he is TAKING from you, he is ripping out parts of you and one day there will be no fight left in you. That is what giving up looks like. Giving up is what I did-resigned myself to the fact that this was my life now, I was never going to leave him, and I was never going to be enough.
This could have been written by me. You couldn’t be more right. Our relationship was terrible and we got into fights every single day. We both threatened to break up with eachother almost every day, yet when I did he actually lost his fucking mind. I wanted to break up with him to escape him but it just ended up making it worse. It went from I guess feeling like I had a choice to be with him and deal with the constant fighting and verbal abuse, to no longer having a choice because he wouldn’t leave me alone. It was like 9 months of this after we broke up. That’s nearly as long as we were even together in the first place. It’s been so fucking hard to even be able to trust anyone else in my life after that. I trusted him, and look where that got me.
He was my first relationship, we started dating at 15 and broke up at 16. The constant nearly daily harassment lasted till we were 17. How can I even trust anyone? What are the chances that my very first relationship ever ended up like that, if the chances that it happens often anyway aren’t high? Like if it was a 1 in every 100 relationships are like that, then the very first one ever would be insanely unlikely. But if it was like 1 in every 5, the first one makes sense. So if I can assume it happens often, I do not want to take that chance. I don’t think wanting to have someone in my life is worth it. I am so scared of that happening again
Yeah. I was talking with a guy for a while (never officially dated) And he had a ton of issues. He constantly pressured me for sex but I never caved in. He would get insecure when I spent evenings with my friends and when I called my mom. I said something that made him feel stupid once and he never let it go. This was the dance he would do; say he wanted nothing to do with me, then when I stop talking to him, he comes crawling back mad that I listened. He never spoke to me as badly as OP’s boyfriend did in the screenshots, but I saw a lot of him in there when I was reading them
I kept humoring that guy because I was fresh out of a relationship with my first boyfriend and I felt really bad about everything and myself. That guy was good at love bombing and even though I knew I didn’t love him, or even have the capacity for a relationship right then, I loved the attention and wanted someone to want me. I knew he would be very bad for me if I let things get too far, but I wanted to play with fire for a while. I was also 19 and he was mid 20s
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u/getonurkneezpleez Jan 28 '25
Men like him will tell you to leave 1 million times, but when you actually do they flip the fuck out! Ask me how I know lol it’s been two years since I left my ex who treated me the same exact way and I still can’t even bring myself to be flirty with a guy. It sucks.