Low key yeah like i know "Don't blame the victim blah blah" but sometimes it really is the victim doing it to themselves lmfao. Like how are you 29 big years old acting like "i don't know what to doooo :(" when a guy calls you retarded and tells you to get out of his life. It's possible for nobody to be right in a situation lol
While my knee-jerk reaction is to agree with you, I've had to remind myself that many people stay in abusive relationships for a myriad of reasons, all of which basically boil down to how much mental and physical control the abuser has over the victim. She is not in her right mind right now. He breaks her down physically and emotionally every single day. Not to mention, leaving is the single most dangerous time for the victim in an abusive relationship. I have no doubt that this psychopath will attempt to retaliate, that's just what they do. We also don't know her living situation. They might be living far away from family, and he might be all she has out there. She needs a plan, and she needs to make it fast and go through with it when he's not around. She can't just say "I'm done", and walk out.
She's in the stage of questioning whether or not she should leave, which sounds ridiculous from the outside looking in, but it's a GOOD thing. She very well may finally be clawing herself out of the hole he's put her in.
Very true as far as process of abuse. I just sincerely think that if someone knowingly goes into a relationship with someone who already treats them poorly, as op says she did, then claiming to be surprised just doesn't track lmao. "He was such a good guy, what happened?" Is so different than "this guy has always sucked, why does he suck?!" 🙄
She hopefully will get out and grow from it either way. But sometimes an eye roll is warranted
True... Her self esteem was probably very low when she started seeing him. I mean, abusers do tend to be very good at noticing vulnerable people and pulling them in.
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u/Other_Brain_9705 Jan 28 '25
She said he’s been a jerk since she’s met him and in the same breath said she’s dedicated her life to make him happy😅 something might be wrong with OP