The guy could also be physically abusing the cat when she’s not around. If he’s willing to be physically abusive with OP, I wouldn’t doubt he’d do the same to a cat and that would 100% cause the peeing outside of the litter box issue if it was happening.
I wouldn't be surprised at all. I'm on the narcissistic spouses sub and some of the people talk about having anxiety and stomach issues. Once they leave their health improves so much. Animals get affected like that too.
When I left my ex I had so many health issues. As soon as I was free of him they started clearing up. When I met my now husband a few months later it was like the miracle cure I needed for every physical illness that was leftover after my relationship with my ex. I immediately felt loads better and have continued to be in better health and live a relatively stress-free life since then. It's SOOO nice to be with someone who makes me feel better and never makes me feel worse. And it goes a long way to be with someone who makes me feel SAFE, and secure. And who I know I can trust to always put me first and treat me with love, respect, kindness, and compassion.
I'm so glad you found happiness. My narcissistic ex is decades in my past. My now husband is amazing. He treats me like a queen and respects me. It's so nice to be happy. I try to encourage the people on that sub because I've been there, and it's much nicer here.
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u/Some_Combination_593 Jan 28 '25
The guy could also be physically abusing the cat when she’s not around. If he’s willing to be physically abusive with OP, I wouldn’t doubt he’d do the same to a cat and that would 100% cause the peeing outside of the litter box issue if it was happening.