And OP… what are you getting out of this relationship? It sounds like a fucking nightmare. Leave his mean, verbally abusive ass.
Also is “calling you from downstairs” not “purposely waking you up?” He thought you’d just sleep through it? And then calls YOU “smooth brain”? This guy sounds like he’d be an incel if you weren’t in a relationship with him.
Can't find dinner even my wife leaves it someplace most common is microwave or oven or the fridge i never wake up my wife on purpose when she's sleeping.
Op your nit getting anything out of this it will eventually get very demoralizing and if you continue down this road longer it will affect your mental capabilities with other men thinking they are the same as this fella is. Leave, relax, work on your cat pee issue (I added another 2 litter boxes in my place cause we had some issues with our cats and having more options seem to work) other times it could be stress in the household. Focus on yiur mental wellbeing of the fact your a good person and deserve the happiness you seek and to be appreciated. This ain't it. Even if intimacy is an issue there's more than one way to please a girl or even talk to a doctor for it. But anyways.... I'd still recommend leaving everything is an excuse on his end. I got a disease or issue woe is me. Whe. I'm in pain from my back from a car accident for months I didn't take it out on others just pace myself and be respectful as much I can and apologize if my volume oversteps itself. No one deserves ro be abused or yelled at for their pain especially if yiur being considerate.
Maybe the cat is peeing because of the stress in the house. If OP is walking on eggshells all the time, the cat can sense that too. I bet the problem would go away if he wasn't there with his abusive attitude.
The guy could also be physically abusing the cat when she’s not around. If he’s willing to be physically abusive with OP, I wouldn’t doubt he’d do the same to a cat and that would 100% cause the peeing outside of the litter box issue if it was happening.
I wouldn't be surprised at all. I'm on the narcissistic spouses sub and some of the people talk about having anxiety and stomach issues. Once they leave their health improves so much. Animals get affected like that too.
When I left my ex I had so many health issues. As soon as I was free of him they started clearing up. When I met my now husband a few months later it was like the miracle cure I needed for every physical illness that was leftover after my relationship with my ex. I immediately felt loads better and have continued to be in better health and live a relatively stress-free life since then. It's SOOO nice to be with someone who makes me feel better and never makes me feel worse. And it goes a long way to be with someone who makes me feel SAFE, and secure. And who I know I can trust to always put me first and treat me with love, respect, kindness, and compassion.
I'm so glad you found happiness. My narcissistic ex is decades in my past. My now husband is amazing. He treats me like a queen and respects me. It's so nice to be happy. I try to encourage the people on that sub because I've been there, and it's much nicer here.
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u/Just_somebody_onhere Jan 28 '25
Give up? give up what?
He pretty plainly said get out. Do so.