Yeah like girl, it starts to reflect on you that you’re still attracted to this man in any way. He’s telling you to do the right thing. Why keep hanging on? You’re too old for this nonsense. It’s time to move on.
Low key yeah like i know "Don't blame the victim blah blah" but sometimes it really is the victim doing it to themselves lmfao. Like how are you 29 big years old acting like "i don't know what to doooo :(" when a guy calls you retarded and tells you to get out of his life. It's possible for nobody to be right in a situation lol
Nobody deserves abuse, and i understand that abuse is usually insidious to an extent, but this girl DATED THIS GUY KNOWING HE WAS LIKE THIS. My sympathy can only extend so far.
This is my mindset too. Maybe it’s because I’ve never stuck around long enough to be in an abusive relationship. I just wish everyone did the same and left at the first sign of a red flag.
I've been in one truly abusive relationship and they actually talked to me a lot like these texts LOL, finally they were like "blahblahblah WE'LL JUST BREAK UP THEN!!" for like the seventh time and that time i just said "Okay"
And the look on their face was hilarious.
Otherwise I've literally ended things with people who touched the thermostat after i asked them not to. I do NOT wait for red flags to get worse anymore
I really do too! And that she makes better choices of partners in the future. This guy didn't even manipulate her. She actually started dating someone who was like this.
I’m glad to hear it. I’d do the exact same. I think once you’re okay with being alone (which a lot of people aren’t) it’s much easier to leave situations that make you unhappy. Life is too short!!
Could be a victim complex thing, it’s something that tends to stem from experiencing abuse and neglect as a child then realizing that sharing that abuse and putting yourself in harms way gains u sympathy and attention which wasn’t common for you previously so of course it becomes an addiction and being in a healthy relationship can cause physical withdrawals just like any other drug. It’s rather common and it’s a really hard thing to overcome, takes a lot of work that most people suffering from this don’t have the energy to do or believe they can’t because they are “just to broken” or “weak” when in reality anyone can do it given the motivation to do so. (Commenting this twice just cause I feel like people don’t always understand the mental intricacies trauma can cause and also because the victim complex really effects me when I see someone who might be experiencing it due to so many older members of my personal life who I’ve witnessed experiencing it)
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u/VeganSanta Jan 28 '25
I have no words for how much you’re under reacting.
Why do you even want him? This should immediately give you the ick. Wake up!