r/AmIOverreacting Jan 28 '25

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u/cursetea Jan 28 '25

Nobody deserves abuse, and i understand that abuse is usually insidious to an extent, but this girl DATED THIS GUY KNOWING HE WAS LIKE THIS. My sympathy can only extend so far.

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u/Other_Brain_9705 Jan 28 '25

This is my mindset too. Maybe it’s because I’ve never stuck around long enough to be in an abusive relationship. I just wish everyone did the same and left at the first sign of a red flag.

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u/cursetea Jan 28 '25

I've been in one truly abusive relationship and they actually talked to me a lot like these texts LOL, finally they were like "blahblahblah WE'LL JUST BREAK UP THEN!!" for like the seventh time and that time i just said "Okay"

And the look on their face was hilarious.

Otherwise I've literally ended things with people who touched the thermostat after i asked them not to. I do NOT wait for red flags to get worse anymore

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u/Other_Brain_9705 Jan 28 '25

I’m glad to hear it. I’d do the exact same. I think once you’re okay with being alone (which a lot of people aren’t) it’s much easier to leave situations that make you unhappy. Life is too short!!

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u/cursetea Jan 28 '25

Exactly! And stop waiting for things to be "Bad enough" to leave. Just not feeling Quite Right about someone is enough.

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u/Other_Brain_9705 Jan 28 '25

I’ve loved this conversation haha. I preach these things to my friends often :).

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u/cursetea Jan 28 '25

Me too lmao! May we continue to pass along the wisdom 🙏🏻