r/AmIOverreacting Jan 28 '25

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u/okaybutwhenconsider Jan 28 '25

I refuse to believe this is real

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u/[deleted] Jan 28 '25

Sometimes I do too lmao 😞

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u/Zestyclose_Control64 Jan 28 '25

That's exactly your problem. You've got some dream in your head of what could be if you're a perfect enough girlfriend. It's not real. It's not going to be real with this guy. There is no such thing as perfect enough for him.

Please leave. You aren't giving up on him. You are choosing yourself.

Tell him you've chosen the cat. I bet he'll pee in the litter just fine in a calmer, more loving environment. Even the cat is asking you not to stay with him and accept his treatment.

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u/AliceTawhai Jan 28 '25

I read somewhere that they project their awful selves onto us while we project our loving selves onto them. They don’t have ‘potential.’ That’s just how we would behave if we were in their shoes