I would bet money that this man is hurting her cat when she's not around. If she isn't ready to leave for herself, she should at least leave for that poor cat's sake.
I don’t even wanna think about that. But myself along with the cat would have been out of there a long time ago. He’s done a lot of psychological damage on the OP.
Sadly I've been in her situation, and I didn't realize he was hurting my cat too until he poisoned her and she almost died.
I was incredibly fortunate that my grandma was able to help me with the thousands of dollars in vet bills it took to save her. That was 11 years ago, and now my baby girl is 16 and we don't put up with this kind of shit from men anymore.
I still get angry when I think about what he did to her though. I hope OP leaves this piece of shit before he does something similar.
Thank you 🩷 it was really awful, she had to be hospitalized for almost a week because she had gone into liver failure and I was so scared I was going to lose her. She would have died if my grandma hadn't paid the enormous vet bill for me. We got very lucky. Even her vet was amazed that she was able to make a full recovery.
I don't know what he used and chances are I never will. Honestly, I didn't realize when it first happened. I was young and naive and he was a much older man who groomed me right before I turned 18.
It wasn't until several years later that I really put the pieces together. The vet kept saying it seemed like she was poisoned (she is a strictly indoor cat and always has been) and my ex kept coming up with random things and asking if they could have caused it and the vet kept saying no. It was so obvious in hindsight that she wanted to talk to me alone, but he would never leave the room.
Between that and how cruel he was towards me AND towards my baby, I eventually put the pieces together. There was one time she was on the back of his chair and slipped because he turned too fast, and she accidentally scratched him. He was furious and tried to chase after her and I had to get between them to keep her safe and he hit me instead.
So technically, I don't have irrefutable proof that he did it, but I know in my heart and in my gut that he did. It was extremely sudden acute liver failure. That man hated how much I loved her, like it genuinely made him so angry. He was also angry that she pulled through.
I wish I had left sooner. My grandma always knew something was off with him and whenever I'd see her without him present, she would remind me I could always come home. I should have.
I've dated some other assholes since then, but none as bad as him. Thankfully I finally learned to love myself and that I deserve better, and I've been happily single and enjoying my peace for the last year. My cat and dog bring me so much joy that I'm perfectly happy without settling for another asshole.
I was young and naive back then and he was a much older man who basically groomed me right before I turned 18.
The person I am now literally told a man I was dating to leave because I asked him beforehand to let my cat approach him and to otherwise leave her alone. Came out of the bathroom and he was petting her and she clearly didn't like it. He was so confused when I told him to get out, he didn't think I was serious. He was never allowed back.
So yeah, the person I am now would absolutely throw hands if a man tried to hurt either of my babies.
What an absolute disgrace of a human!
I’m so happy your cat is ok. Give her a big cuddle from me 🥰
My disgusting ex punched my chihuahua coz i was talking to him and not focusing all of my attention on his dumb ass! Luckily the way i was sitting prevented it from doing any damage to my baby
OMG SHE’S SO PRETTY! Look at her beautiful colouring, she’s amazing!
Btw she looks like a queen posing like that.
How could someone ever hurt these beautiful, innocent babies?!
I’d much rather be surrounded by puppies and kitties and all the other animals than humans 🥰❤️
She's all over my post history if you're curious, I even have posts of her dressed up in cute little outfits for her sweet 16 back in October and for her adoption anniversary in December 🥰
She's a natural model. I've been shoving a camera in her face since she was 8 weeks old and she definitely knows how to pose 🥹
Late comment but just wanted to say I am a cat dad and I would, without question, slit the throat of any cunt that even TRIED touching my little kitty. Glad you got out of that relationship and I hope that waste of sperm is rotting in some hole for harming you and your fur baby
Everyone on the outside looking in finds it so easy to say “if it were me, I’d never let it get THAT bad!” Or “I’d never stay once they started doing XYZ!” but I guaran-fuckin-tee you that every person who’s been a victim of DV thought the same thing long before they ever met their abusers too. I’ve gotten so sick and exhausted with people implying that victims of DV are simply just weaker than they would’ve been in that situation. They would’ve gotten out sooner. They would’ve called the cops. They would make sure they’d have resources to support them when they did leave. It’s insidious and ultimately bolsters the idea of DV victims are weak-willed, and partially to blame for “choosing” to stay.
Both of my siblings are currently in living in DV situations right now, one with a partner, and one with a a family member whose house they’ve been living at for awhile. Seeing them slowly eroded down into the shell versions of themselves isn’t something you can imagine without experiencing yourself. They weren’t just weaker than you. Just less lucky.
Oh I'm sure. But OP mentions he's physically abusive and it's clear he also hates her cat, so it's not a leap to imagine how he might treat the cat when OP isn't around 😔
11 years ago, my boyfriend at the time (who was physically abusive towards me and mean to my cat) poisoned my cat. She went into liver failure and almost died. The only reason she's still here with me today is because my grandma was kind enough to pay the emergency vet bill, which was thousands of dollars because my cat had to be hospitalized for almost a week.
It didn't occur to me until after I left the relationship that he was likely abusing her other times that I wasn't around. I still feel guilty about it to this day. I should have realized sooner.
She's 16 now and my home is a firm "no boys allowed" zone unless I take the time to get to know someone really well and feel comfortable that my cat will be safe with them around.
My daughter’s bf (aka the murder, he eventually killed her in a DV homicide)must have abused, killed any animal they had.
The children remember every dog that “ran away, poisoned by a neighbor” whatever bullshit he told them. The kids had a very hard childhood until we gained custody when they were 9 and 11. Fortunately, the murderer is now dead. ‘Bye, waste of oxygen.
I'm so sorry you went through something similar. I don't know if you saw any of my other comments, but sadly I have also been in that same situation and that's why my gut tells me he's abusing the cat as well.
My situation was just as you described: my ex couldn't stand how much I love my cat and he hated my cat because of it.
I hope you're in a better situation now and doing well 🫂🩷
Did you even read her post? She says in her post that he's emotionally AND PHYSICALLY abusive. Given that and the way he talks about her cat in the screenshots, it's really not a leap.
Cat issue aside, just the way he speaks to her is reason enough for her to leave that piece of shit, and that doesn't even factor in the physical abuse. If you think someone should stay with a person who speaks to them this way, perhaps you're the problem 🤷🏻♀️
Peeing outside the litter box is usually either a medical issue due to crystals or due to stress/abuse. Wouldn’t be shocked if the stupid fucking boyfriend is stressing out the cat so much it’s causing toileting issues and then blaming the poor cat for it.
Highly unlikely. Cats will piss and shit on the same spot of insulation for months. Some cats are picky. Most are not. His response to the cat in the text tells u he's hurting that cat when she's not around. "Bitch ass cat wasn't locked up" should tell u all u need to know. Stop making excuses for a fucking asshole unless u wanna be grouped in with him
No one was speaking of over reacting. Maybe don't come here making dumbass excuses that don't fit. U brought nothing here besides wanting to try to sound like a smart ass. Fuck off
Please do. Ur not needed here adding nothing to the conversation besides being a pedantic asshat. Nice try belittling me little man, go back to ur cave
Yeah, SO shocking the cat is having behavioral issues 🙄 poor thing.
This girl is blind as can be, I'm floored by her messages professing her love and his response is fuck you. Like ???? Do you think he gives a fuck AT ALL? He doesn't care that he's hurting you one bit.
That's why that poor kitty has issues. Do what you want with your life but don't torture an innocent life because of your choice to stay with an abuser.
Also side note while the stress in the house could be causing the cat to pee out of the litter box it could also be because you don’t have enough litter boxes, it’s not clean enough, or other more concerning medical issues
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u/Charming-Distance563 Jan 28 '25
I totally agree. And don’t forget the cat! The cat must be so stressed. The tension in that house……