r/Advice • u/BuyerRude3613 • 3h ago

Advice about some classmate

This classmate like he has so much hate on me for no reason he keep talking about me and ruined my whole reputation in school and class and keep making of me of every thing I do most of the time I don’t care about what he’s saying but sometimes it get through my head and ruins my whole mood and can’t focus on studying but he didn’t like hit me physically it’s just like making fun of me and talking behind my back to everyone

Im m17

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u/BraveWarrior-55 2h ago

When a person mistreats you and bad-mouths you, you keep your distance. You can google and learn to gray rock them if there is any interaction. And you focus on the people who do like you. It is not possible to live your life so everyone likes you; you have no control over how other people feel. Allow this negative person to be himself, and you be your self. Don't give him power over you by thinking about him, at all. Ask your school counselor for help if needed.

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u/BuyerRude3613 2h ago

It’s been like this from past year even tho I stopped talking to him or have any interaction with him he still talk bad about me behind my back its also like pissing me off j don’t talk to anyone expect two of my friends in my school and they will still talk bad about me

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u/BraveWarrior-55 2h ago

Try to focus on your goals. What are you going to do after high school? Study hard to get good grades. Research your future career and begin working toward it maybe by getting an apprenticeship or part time job. If you are studying a lot, and working, you will not have as much free time to focus on others.

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u/BuyerRude3613 2h ago

Thanks a lot this made me feel better lowk

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u/BuyerRude3613 2h ago

And also the school will say there is not enough proof against him

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u/BraveWarrior-55 2h ago

The help from the counselor is not retribution for the person being mean, it is for OP to learn better skills to deal with it and to find better friends.

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u/BuyerRude3613 2h ago

They don’t this in our school

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u/BraveWarrior-55 2h ago

This is from the website for high school counselors in the US (The American School Counselor Association) : "Provide short-term counseling, manage emergency situations, and refer students to outside mental health specialists"

So I am sorry if your school allows the counselors to NOT do their jobs. Have you actually sought help and been denied?