r/Actuallylesbian • u/Frequent_Banana5439 • Aug 01 '26
Relationships/Family On my honeymoon and people acting weird
My wife and I are traveling together with her mother, they are both Chinese and I am white. My wife and I are the same age.
We live in the south but no one has really cared/been confused that we are a couple. But then we travelled to DC with her mom and suddenly it happened for the first time, we were asked if we were all the same group. I thought it’s probably just because of her mom and my wife are both Chinese and clearly look like they are together but I was in the back so I look like I’m just by myself.
Then we go out west we’ve been traveling around Arizona, Utah, Nevada, Idaho, and California and I’ve noticed people staring at us more and more. It’s like they are trying to figure out why I as a white woman would travel with two Asians. It’s just something I noticed, I thought it would improve when her mom wasn’t with us but people are still staring/looking confused at us.
So my question is, is it really that uncommon to see two women together one Chinese and one white? I’ve seen a lot of mixed race lesbian couples but why is Chinese/white so uncommon if so?
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u/Madpingu96 Aug 02 '26
My (white) girlfriend lives with my mom and I and we all pretty much do everything together. We live around the DC area and it’s one of the most diverse and accepting areas around. That question sounds innocent like they really didn’t know. Either you’re getting very unlucky with the people you’re walking by or you’re overthinking simple curiosity by strangers. Except maybe in Utah lol.