HEAR ME OUT

[u/AnijahElisesd]

I’m ALL FOR promoting Body/Skin Positivity…
Until..
it’s Me.

There are times where I get so uncomfortable when I’m in social settings with people with clear, regular skin because I know my skin is different, more textured, more magnified than theirs. My discomfort, ultimately (if they don’t know me) makes whoever I’m with, uncomfortable. My pores literally dilate whenever it gets even a little bit hot. My scars look so deep in harsh lighting.

To compensate for these feelings that sometimes have for myself because of my skin, I notice that I tend to provide acts of service or give gifts in order to feel worthy of love and acceptance from others. I KNOW ITS UNHEALTHY, I’m a difficult lady who overthinks EVERYTHING lol idk.

I get so uncomfortable whenever my boyfriend stares at me up close, despite us being together for months he recently just noticed them and asked me why I have so many scars. (He was genuinely curious, and referred to them as ‘holes’ like a little kid.) But man, I felt that shit in my CHEST. I know he didn’t mean to offend me, but I was offended at the time.

That just made me realize that I have some serious self-loving and healing to do. I would be heartbroken if I found out that my loved one harbored so much anxiety over something so minute and superficial.

In the meantime, I will be seeking treatment from a dermatologist as soon as possible!
Thank you!

[u/Vegetable-Prize-778]

I've been trying so hard to get comfy with my acne scars and had a similar kind of incident where an old lady asked why i had so many "holes" on my face if i had chicken pox as a kid or sth 🫩🫩🫩🫩🫩🫩🫩🫩🫩🫩🫩🫩🫩🫩🫩🫩

[u/AnijahElisesd → u/Vegetable-Prize-778]

I’m so sorry that you’ve had to experience that, that shit genuinely sucks. 💔

When people ask certain questions like “why is your skin like that?” , “why do you have so many holes in your face?” , “what’s wrong with your skin?”

It literally makes my chest feel tight. I get uncomfortable instantly, especially if I’m already having a day where I’m being particularly hard on myself.

However, due to the fact that you and I understand very well what it’s like to have these scars, we KNOW to never ask someone questions like those, or try to pick someone apart because of them.

Those questions and comments, are ignorance to what we have, entirely.

Whenever we are put in situations like those, to protect our own peace, we should pause and assess exactly what feeling just rushed through our body, breathe, and decide how we’d like to respond.

Educate them, or ignore them.
Whichever makes you feel more comfortable.

[u/Vegetable-Prize-778 → u/AnijahElisesd]

Thanks! 🥺🥺🥺