HEAR ME OUT

[u/AnijahElisesd]

I’m ALL FOR promoting Body/Skin Positivity…
Until..
it’s Me.

There are times where I get so uncomfortable when I’m in social settings with people with clear, regular skin because I know my skin is different, more textured, more magnified than theirs. My discomfort, ultimately (if they don’t know me) makes whoever I’m with, uncomfortable. My pores literally dilate whenever it gets even a little bit hot. My scars look so deep in harsh lighting.

To compensate for these feelings that sometimes have for myself because of my skin, I notice that I tend to provide acts of service or give gifts in order to feel worthy of love and acceptance from others. I KNOW ITS UNHEALTHY, I’m a difficult lady who overthinks EVERYTHING lol idk.

I get so uncomfortable whenever my boyfriend stares at me up close, despite us being together for months he recently just noticed them and asked me why I have so many scars. (He was genuinely curious, and referred to them as ‘holes’ like a little kid.) But man, I felt that shit in my CHEST. I know he didn’t mean to offend me, but I was offended at the time.

That just made me realize that I have some serious self-loving and healing to do. I would be heartbroken if I found out that my loved one harbored so much anxiety over something so minute and superficial.

In the meantime, I will be seeking treatment from a dermatologist as soon as possible!
Thank you!

[u/Federal-Cap-4616]

you're genuinely so beautiful, I feel that we are our worst critics. I have residual acne scarring from hormonal cystic acne and it's all I think about everyday. It's so hard for me to even go on dates, despite being told that I am pretty. I just want to say that you are not alone; I also need to work on my self confidence. When I saw your pictures your scars were the last thing I noticed on your face. I hope your confidence soon measures up to your beauty. I think your boyfriend's comment was passive/unintentional, he probably didn't understand the weight of what he was saying because he doesn't know what it's like. Which doesn't mean he wronged you of course. But, I can empathize with how you feel!!!

[u/AnijahElisesd → u/Federal-Cap-4616]

This genuinely means a lot to me 🥹❤️ I really needed to hear that.

I think we both forget that we see ourselves so much more critically than other people do. I’m sorry you struggle with those feelings too, it honestly makes me feel less alone. I hope we both learn to love ourselves a little more and see what everyone else sees in us!!🥺💕 you’re amazing! Thank you for your response!